Monday, September 3, 2007

Checking it once, Checking it twice


I have had this checklist a long time. I don't know who wrote it originally, but there is no name or copyright on it. I have found this very helpful when developing a new spanking relationship. It seems to work well if each of us fill it out separately and then discuss our answers together. Gives us a chance to establish any limits beforehand without the chance of misunderstanding one another.


SPANKING CHECKLIST

This list is for both Spankers and spankees, if you are a Spanker,just translate thequestion into whether or not you like making a spankee do the thing in question.

Rate them from 0-5, also short remarks are welcome if you feel theyare needed.

0 = You have no desire to do this activity. Hard limit.

1 = You don't want to do this activity, but if it was asked of you,you would do it.

2 = You are willing to do this activity, reluctantly

3 = You would like to experience this activity occasionally

4 = You would like to experience this activity regularly

5 = This activity is a major turn-on for you and you would like to experience it as much as possible, or it simply feels "natural" to you.


TYPE of Spanking

Erotic-
Fun-

Just Because-

Discipline-

Punishment-
Good girl/boy-

CLOTHING

Over clothing-

Bare bottom-

over panties-

Over panties then to bare-

PJs and bare bottom-

Panties or teddy hiked into crack-
Over thong-


POSITIONS

OTK/Spanker sitting on straight-backed chair-

Over lap on bed or sofa-
OTK/Spanker's leg over spankee's legs and holding wrists -

Spankee laying on bed with pillows or bolster raising bottom -

Laying straight down no bolster/pillows -
Bent over edge of bed -

Bent over straight-backed chair -

Over back of sofa/chair -

Over arm of sofa/chair -
Bent over partner's hip and leg -

Kneeling on hands and knees -

Bent over with hands on knees -
Bent over grabbing ankles -

Laying over foot stool -
Over kitchen table -
Over spanking horse or bench -

Against wall or standing straight up-

Against wall with cuffs/chain/rope -

Being in a bent or down position with cuffs/chain/rope-

Whipping post -

Whipping Post restrained -

In stocks (neck) -

In stocks (wrist and ankle while standing) -
In spanking stocks (waist stock) -

Wheel barrow position -
Diaper position -


IMPLEMENTS

Hand -

Hairbrush -
Bath brush-
Paddle-wooden -
Paddle-wooden with holes-
Leather Paddle -
Belt -Strap -

Razor Strop -
Tree switch -
Wooden ruler -

Wooden spoon-
Rubber/plastic spatula -

Wooden spatula (flat no curve) -
Sandal/slipper-

Cane(natural materials)
Cane(lexan)-

Flogger-suede -

Flogger-leather -
Tawse -
Rubber strap -

Rubber paddle -

Plastic/lexan paddle -

Riding Crop -

Yardstick -
loopy Johnny-
flexible ruler-
paint stirrer-

BEFORE, BETWEEN, AND DURING SPANKINGS

Corner time with hands at sides-
Corner time with hands folded in front-

Corner time with hands on head-
Corner time holding implement of correction-

Corner time bottom shoved out-
Corner time sitting in chair-

Corner time holding books or something else aloft (like books)-
Corner time sitting and writing lines-

Fetching a switch-

Rapid spanking-
Lectures/scolding before spanking-

Scolding during spanking-

Rubbing bottom by spankee-

Rubbing bottom by Spanker-

Stripped-

Phrases used/Trigger language (I've been a naughty girl/ Thank youSir may I haveanother, etc.)-

Having a safeword for all other than punishment spankings-

Having a safeword during punishment spankings-

Restraints/Cuffs-

Following orders-

Counting strokes-

Sent to bed early-
Grounded from something-

Mouth washing-

Spanker baring subs bottom-

Spankee ordered to bare bottom-
Told what to expect ahead of time-
Not told what to expect at all-
Shop for implements together-

Spankee required to ask for a spanking-
Spankee required to address spanker by Sir, Master, or another titleof respect-

Maintenance spankings given every day (including any punishment due)-
Maintenance spankings given every second day-

Maintenance spankings given once a week-

Maintenance spankings given twice a month-
Maintenance spankings given once a month-

Spankee ordered to retrieve/present implement-
Implement being shown to spankee before use-
Implement being kept secret from spankee until use-
Multiple implements used during a spanking session other than punishment-
Multiple implements used during punishment-
Only one implement besides hand used during punishment-
Only implement used during punishment-
Only hand used during punishment-
Penalties (extra swats or other) for not following orders/missingcount/covering
up/moving out of position, etc-

Phone call earlier in day telling what is to come (be in cornerwaiting/what to wear/etc.) -
Building anticipation for upcoming spanking-telling in advance that aspanking is coming-Spankee explaining why they are receiving correction-
Tied down to wait in a position with bare bottom-

Made to hold a position without restraint with bare bottom (bentover, laying on bed, etc)-Spankee holds implement during hand spanking then hands implement toSpanker whenrequested-
Icing between spankings-
Soothing lotion between spankings-
Oil between spankings-

Icy/Hot or other warming agent between spankings-

Wet bottom spankings-

Being made to cry-

AFTER THE SPANKINGS

Corner time standing bare bottom-any variation-
Sitting bottom on hard chair-
Holding some other punishment position-

Writing lines or essay-
Made to apologize for being naughty-

Apologizes on her own-

Made to wear sign (I have been spanked for being a bad girl, etc)-

Made to post or tell other spanking friends about punishment-
Hugs/cuddling-
Sitting on lap-
Sexual activity of any kind-
Spankee required to thank spanker for spanking-
Spankee thanks spanker on her own-

Spankee made to feel loved, cherished, protected, secure-
Sent straight to bed-
Allowed to cry being cuddled or supported-

Photographs of marks or red bottom standing in corner or lying overbed-

Being grounded for a period of time-
Loss of privileges-

Spankee required to drop panties and show spanker condition of bottomwhenever asked(other than vanilla public)-

No panties for 24 hours after punishment spanking-

No clothing for up to 24 hours after punishment spanking-

1 comment:

Dove said...

Wow Purple, that is an extensive list but I can see how this would make it crystal clear up front what the boundaries and limits are.

Hugs Dove