An Update and Thanks to Those That Did Not Give Up

Well now, it has been awhile and I am sorry. I certainly deserve a spanking and I will make sure I get one for leaving my blog swinging in the breeze so long.

As of now I am back on schedule with work, my group's May party is going full speed ahead(if you are interested leave a comment), and I can't wait to tell you about Janine.

Oh surely you remember Janine? Parts 1-3 of the story Bitter and Cold. Ok here is the update or you can go down a few posts and read it. Janine was the sub of a man with a heart of stone who treated her very badly indeed. The day he left her because she was such an unworthy sub there was a knock on the door. There was the technician from the utility company to turn off the gas and electricity. Janine, in shock already, faints and cracks her head on the floor.

When she wakes up in the hospital, she has a concussion but her hero has stayed to find out how she is. The doctor is also interested in the man that was not in the apartment due to the horrible welts and bruises up and down Janine's legs.

That is where part 4 starts tomorrow. Any ideas of what will happen? Leave them on the comment page. And thanks to those who wrote to me, you are all just the best. Oh and as you can see from the picture I am in the perfect position for anyone who would like to get in some smacks on a naughty blogger's behind.

Hugs,

Purple Angel

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Tomorrow Part four of Bitter and Cold.

Turning Up the Heat-Comments

Well my move is complete but the job of unpacking goes on....and on and on and on! However, before I continue the story Bitter and Cold I wanted to share the comments about the post on turning up the heat. This involved the concept of figging using fresh ginger and other salves and oils that heat up the bottom as well as genital areas. I do thank all of you that responded.

In my opinion using agents to heat up and stimulate the skin all depends on how sensitive the person's skin is that is the recipient. I have had Ben Gay used rectally and it is a quite a feeling. Even after being removed it still stings for quite awhile. I have often referred to it as an inside out spanking. However, we did discover that it started to cause problems because of my intestinal problems. That is why I think it is really important to be careful with substances on delicate tissue areas. Here are the comments from the others that joined in.

Johninill said...
Honestly? Never tried it and don't want to. If you can't accomplish the task with the usual implements and techniques, then you're not going to succeed

A.S.S. said...
We have certainly kicked around the idea of using something on the skin to enhance the sensation of a spanking... with Ben Gay being at the top of that list. Thing is, it's not a traditional part of a spanking... so for us, it's really not something that would work in a discipline spanking. With that off the table, the added pain might be a bit too much for something playful.Something we may try one day though!:)Todd & Suzy

PK said...
Purple,I read about figging and I really wanted to try it. I loved it! I love the burn/stinging sensation and it stops as soon as the root is removed so it is the kind of thing you can try and end it quickly if you find you don't like it.I love to use Ben Gay after a spanking because I love afterburn. I have been afraid to use in on a plug or anything because I was afraid it would be too incense and I wouldn't have a good way to stop it.This site has many people discussing their experiences with figging and with a few other experimental items. It makes an interesting read. http://www.figging.com/

SPANKEDHORTIC said...
If you want to try something a little more natural have a peppermint bath before your spanking. The recipe is simple crush about 2 handfuls of peppermint leaves, with a mortar and pestle, boil it up in about one and a half liters of water (three pints) and dump the lot, leaves and all, in your bath water (without bubble bath or salts). Peppermint is a natural muscle relaxant and like most of these it makes the skin more sensitive, mildly but noticeably. You end up smelling nice and minty too.Figging is fun but I find it a bit of a challenge sometimes.Prefectdt

Andrades Girl said...
Hi Purple AngelA very interesting question. I have read about figging and found the same website that PK speaks about. But I am too chicken to try that just yet. I am still getting used to the sensations/stinging of spankings. Spankedhortic's advice seems very interesting.Take care,Andrades Girl

Helixman said...
The figging thing...idk.However, I have been spanked after having baby oil spread on my bottom, hard, with a hairbrush which is intense. I have also been hairbrush spanked on a wet bottom - intense but less so than the baby oil.Incidently, about a blistered bottom,pure aloe vera juice, inexpensive, and availble at Walmart, is the best. For soothing post-spank, ice is good, directly moving a piece around the skin (and tres erotique), but Udder Cream out of the fridge will sooth a lot longer, also from Wally World.Lance

K said...
Be sure to give a review if you try the ginger. I'm a bit curious, too, but Hubby said the thought of f'ing me with produce just isn't appealing. I can't complain, though. He keeps me well satisfied with plenty of other ways.

Cigi said...
Oh Valorie you are either going to love my response for its candor or you're going to hate it for the same reason, but...here goes.In my opinion, when you start including penetration/insertion into the spanking scenario, you are no longer spanking...you're having sex. This is just my opinion. To me, anything inserted in exit only areas when I'm trying to enjoy my spanking would just detract...might as well just stop and have anal sex. As for finding an ointment or salve that sensatizes the skin for a spanking, I am not a fan of that either. It's like the spanker saying, "Well, my hand (or strap or paddle) isn't good enough to get the job done" or "I'm a sadist and I want it to hurt you as much as possible." I have tried some things in this area and just hated it. I always ended up having to take cold cream and remove whatever it was that was stinging. This is not in any way erotic to me. So my vote is NO on both counts. Sorry, my love, but you know I'm a purist!Love ya!Cigi

Anonymous said...
Although it sounds kinky and exciting to me, I've been told that substances like ben-gay may burn mucous membranes to the point of damage, and that straight peppermint oil, applied with a q-tip, had a pleasant burning sensation. Haven't tried figging yet, but want to! :)

I'll be back...really!

Well I am moving to a new place that I will be sharing with a friend. I can't tell you how happy I am to be leaving the place I have been living for the last four years. It will also be very nice to not live alone. In any case I won't be doing alot of posting for the next couple of weeks. I have to work and pack. So most of my communication will be by phone.

In the meantime you can think about whether figging is a good idea and what is going to happen to Janine in Bitter and Cold. I would love feedback. This is the first time I have written a mean or uncaring man in a spanking story. It is also the first time I am writing spanking into a mystery.

Take care one and all, I promise to be back!

Question of the Week-Turning up the heat

This week's question is one I have been curious about for a long time. When I am very naughty and the person spanking me is not sure my bottom can take as much as he thinks it deserves (and he does not like bruising) I have had Ben Gay inserted into my bottom. I assure you this is like getting an inside out spanking, although it does no harm. Oh and of course yes he does spank with whatever implement he chooses after inserting that awful stuff. He has also said he would like to find an ointment or salve to increase the sensitivity of my bottom for spanking.

I have never experienced figging but I have read many accounts. Sounds like a good news/bad news deal to me. So what I am asking my readers is how you feel about using substances to increase the sensitivity of the areas being spanked. In some cases this includes genital areas as well. The only thing I ask is that if you post please don't identify a substance that can be harmful. If you aren't sure please post that you don't know for sure. So have you tried it? Would you try it? Which ones have worked well? And lastly, do you find any a turn on?

Bitter and Cold Pt 3 M/f spanking fiction

The serviceman from the power company dropped his clipboard and knelt down next to the unconscious woman. He had seen people react many ways to shutting off their power but this was a first for him. He could tell this was not an act, no one could force their skin to turn that color.

He gently turned Janine over and patted her face gently, "Ms. Grant, Ms. Grant", in his anxiety assuming the woman on the floor was Paul Grant's wife. As he moved his hand to gently pull her skirt down he noticed the ugly welted bruises up and down her thighs. There were fresh ones and a number that looked much older. They were yellow and starting to heal. He shook his head, it never ceased to amaze him what people would do to those they supposedly cared about. But for right now he was most concerned that she was not regaining consciousness. He noticed the large lump starting to form on her forehead and decided that he might now quite a bit about electrical circuits but he knew very little about the circuitry of the brain. He opened his cell phone and dialed 911.

Voices from far off were calling her name. "Janine can you open your eyes?" What a dumb question she thought, of course I can open my eyes. However, as she tried she realized it was going to be more difficult than she thought it would be. When she tried to move her head there was a heavy, dull pain and she groaned. "Get Dr. Ferris, I think she is starting to wake up." Another voice she didn't recognize. As Janine struggled to open her eyes all she saw was fuzzy gray outlines. Suddenly a light was shining in her eyes and she struggled to move her head but it was held securely. As the torturous light beamed in each eye, Janine began to see colors and distinct lines. "Now that is looking better", boomed a hearty voice. The voice was cheery but loud and Janine winced at the ache in her head. The Dr. smiled and lowered his voice considerably. "Sorry about that. But we are very glad to see those pretty eyes open. You, my dear, have a serious concussion and we have spent the better part of a day and night hoping you were going to wake up pretty soon." He patted Janine's hand as he realized the amount of shock she was in from all this information. "I am Dr. Ferris and you are at Mercy Hospital. I do believe a young man brought you in. That headache you have is going to last awhile unfortunately, although now that you are awake we can give you a mild pain reliever.

Janine heard nothing past a young man brought you in. Paul...it had to be Paul, he came back and found her. Oh God he saved her life. "Oh please can I see him?" The Dr. smiled, patted her hand again, gave the nurse orders as to what to give her and assured Janine she could certainly see her good Samaritan.

The Dr. left the room and within a few minutes a tall very slender man in a gray uniform walked in looking very awkward. His sandy brown hair was tousled and he had deep blue eyes that looked at Janine curiously. "Hey there glad to see you are doing better, you sure gave us a scare."

"Who are you, where is Paul", Janine's voice was sharper than she intended but this was becoming very confusing. The young man sat down in the chair next to her bed.

"Oh well your husband wasn't home when I got there. I guess you don't remember after that awful bump on your head." He winced as he looked at the huge lump which was now turning a horrible shade of deep purple. "All we could find in your purse was your name and information. I guess you use your maiden name since there was nothing with Grant on it."

Turning her head slightly to the side Janine winced, "He isn't my husband, we live together. I thought when they said a man brought me in that it was him." A few tears trickled down her cheeks. Her voice became cold and leaden, "Please leave, I just want to be alone." In her misery it never even occurred to her to thank the man who had seen to her safety.

Rob awkwardly stood up pushing the chair back and watching Janine crunch her face at the squeal it made on the floor. "I am sorry Ma'am, hope you are better really soon. I am sure I can get the power company to wait until this all gets straightened out." Waving her hand at him, Janine paid no attention to what he was saying. As the nurse walked in with a hypodermic Rob nodded and walked out the door.

As he started down the hallway the Dr caught him by his arm. Sorry son, I didn't get your name."

"Oh its Robert Powell, I work for the power company. When I came to disconnect the power today she fainted and that is when her head was injured."

The doctor nodded, "I see, so you are not her boyfriend or husband. We would like to talk to him if you happen to have any information about him."

Rob handed the doctor the card for the power company service office, "They can help you, all I know is that his name is Paul Grant and he lives at this address." Rob wrote it on the back of the card. "But the lady says it is not her husband, but that she lives with him." Rob shuffled his feet, "I couldn't help but notice all the well, bruising on her legs. Is she going to be alright?"

The doctor looked at him gravely, "That is what we would like to talk to Mr. Grant about. Thank you for your information. You have been very helpful.'

Rob started towards the elevator and turned back, "Is it ok if I come back and visit, just to make sure she if doing ok?"

The doctor smiled, "Of course you can and I am sure that Janine will appreciate it."

The nurse swabbed down the area where she had just given Janine a shot. "Now this will help the pain in your head and make you sleep. Don't you fight it sweetie. You need to rest." Before the nurse walked out the door she hesitated, "Janine is there anything you would like to talk about? You know, of course, we all saw your legs. Its hard to miss. Honey, is someone hurting you?"

It took a moment for Janine to get what the nurse was talking about. Her legs?.. Oh the bruises. "She shook her head, "No it is just because I did not do as I should, I deserved it." Then she repeated Paul's favorite phrase, "Bad girls get spanked." Of course had she been coherent she would never have revealed such information to the nurse but she was already sinking off to sleep.

The nurse left the room shaking her head. The doctor looked at her quizzically. "All she would say is bad girls get spanked." Her face was pinched in anger, "I would like to get my hands on the bad boy that did that to her." She stried off to the nurse's station.

Shaking his head the doctor went off to visit other patients not knowing that the woman with the abused legs and buttocks would become a very interesting mystery.

How Lonliness Looks

When I went looking for pictures to go with the idea of lonliness, I kept coming back to this one. I know that from most spanko's point of view it would be considered a beautiful picture of corner time. But for me it truly expresses the emptiness I feel right now.

I feel so cold all over, my heart, my body, especially my bottom. Knowing that the New Year's Eve we planned will not be taking place and I will be alone is starting to get harder, not easier to live with. Knowing that I won't ever feel his warm, hard hand landing on my tender skin makes my eyes well with tears while that hand did nothing but put a smile on my face. This year went so fast and now when I look back I see all the lovely events and none of the problems that led to an inevitable break up.

Yes, I saw it coming but I hoped, oh how I hoped, we might reconcile certain issues and remain together. It wasn't to be. What is also so hard is at this time of year so many people come together, get engaged, make plans to be with each other always. Instead GC and I had to throw away our plans and face a rather bleak holiday.

So, as we all do from time to time, I am struggling to get myself up off the ground and back on my feet. Of course me body had to put in its two cents and show off with a terrific case of bronchitis. That of course will end and go away, and I can only hope the lonliness will to.

So my friends I know that all relationships begin and end in one way or another. Do you think sometimes it is harder to maintain a spanko relationship considering you each might have different wants and needs? Just a thought.

Bitter and Cold-Pt 2 Spanking Fiction M/f

Janine lay under the down comforter in the morning light thinking back to the events of the last few weeks. The events that led up to Paul leaving her. Unfortunately her mind was so consumed with her sorrow and guilt at not being able to be submissive enough that she was missing some of the problems that would unfortunately make themselves very clear.



She brushed her chocolate brown hair out of her face and buried her face further into the pillow. When Paul had invited her to move in with him she had never looked ahead to what would happen if she had to move out. Of course, it had never occured to her that Paul would simply pick up and leave her in his apartment. She sat up in bed. Of course, it was so simple, he was coming back. He had to come back. This was just to scare her into being good.



In some ways it matched the first spanking he had given her after she moved in. Up to that point spankings were serious or fun depending on the circumstances, but it was never more than she could take. She might end up crying but there was always Paul's comforting embrace to look forward to along with incredible lovemaking.



But the day she moved in, she remembered being giddy and excited. She had carried all her boxes up in the elevator and piled them in the room Paul had indicated. He seemed very amused by her attitude until she brushed by one of the tabletops on her way out the door and knocked over a candlestick. Janine scrambled to catch it but it hit the floor before she could reach it.



Looking up at Paul with wide blue eyes, she fumbled over an apology, "Oh honey I am so sorry, I will pay for it, I promise."



Paul's face went cold as he promised, "You certainly will pay for it love, in more ways than you know." With those words he pulled her towards a hard chair to the side of the couch. "Take off those pants and your shirt, now Janine."



She had never seen his face quite this way, a small dart of panic coursed through her. "Now wait Paul, it was an accident, you know that. It wasn't on purpose."

Paul lost no time, his dark eyes became angry and he grabbed Janine's arm as he pulled off her blouse and yanked off her jeans. As panic set in Janine began to struggle to get away. Paul pulled her close to him by one arm, "Stop that immediately, you will obey everything you are asked to do and obey it immediately." He obviously did not feel Janine had the proper submissive expression or attitude since he sat down on the chair and pulled her over his knee roughly. As her arm automatically went back to protect herself he pulled it out of the way unmoved when she screamed from the pain of it being bent so far out of position.

But she was in no way ready for the spanking he was prepared to give over the broken glass and poor submissive attitude. His hard hand began slapping on her upper thighs back and forth. She had no idea a hand could cause so much pain, but then he had never spanked that area before. "Paul stop please, this is too much." Janine screamed and struggled to no avail. He held her tightly in place as he reached into the table drawer next to the chair. All Janine heard was the scrape of wood and began to struggle anew. It did her no good.

Paul's voice was smooth and cold, "Janine you are here at my invitation. You are my submissive. This spanking will teach you what I expect you to take without any arguement or struggle. If you can't do that, then get out....is....that...clear?" Each word was punctuated with a very dramatic smack of a wooden paddle.

Janine could hardly breathe, it hurt so much, "Yes", she gasped, "I understand, I'll behave, really I will. Oh God, don't throw me out."
That spanking would never be forgotten since it left bruises and blisters on her butt. She couldn't sit for several days nor could she wear panties since there were severe bruises in the creases and down her thighs. Paul pointed out to her several times that this would happen whenever she disobeyed.

Considering the condition of her body she did not point out to him that it was an accident. From that point on, Janine's life was under Paul's direction at all times. And no matter what she tried to do it was never enough or what he wanted.

Could she be right though, was this possibly a scheme of Paul's to improve her behavior? She swung her legs over her bedside energized by the thought that Paul might be back that very day. She showered very quickly and got dressed snapping her collar in place.

As she straightened out the kitchen there was a knock on the door. Janine opened the door and there was an electrical company worker there. He looked up at her, "Mr. Paul Grant?"

"No he's not at home, can I help you?" Janine looked at him quizzically.

"Well ma'am, I have to turn off your power, the bill is overdue by two months. Unless you can pay in cash right now, I have to disconnect the power. Now the man had been perfectly nice and polite, he always tried to break the news as gently as he could, so he was not at all prepared for the next event.

Janine looked at the man with total disbelief, her face turned a horrible shade of gray and she sank, like a sack of flour, straight to the floor.

Sadness

I apologize for not continuing the story I started, I shall try to have the next part tomorrow. In fact, writing is kind of tough right now. GC and I have ended our relationship and while we are keeping things on a friendly level, it is still very sad and certainly is a rift in my life that I didn't expect at this point.

There is no blame to be tossed around, that is always pointless since in the ending of a relationship it is usually true that both parties bear some blame. But after the first few days you do start to remember the parts that were so very good and that hurts.

Right about now I wished I lived next door to my big brother, I need a spanking so much. No, I don't think I have done anything wrong but a therapy spanking would let out all that I am choking on inside.

So I will do my best to finish the story as soon as possible but I hope you will bear with me if my focus just isn't where it should be.

After all vanilla or spanko, endings can be very painful for all involved.

Bitter and Cold-pt 1 spanking fiction M/f

How did things ever get this far out of hand? Janine sat on the edge of her bed and shivered in the morning air. She wrapped her arms around herself as the numbness of her situation began to set in. Paul was gone, he had left last night. All of her dignity drained out of her as she had begged him to stay, promised to do better, to be more, anything he wanted.

As he threw his clothes in his suitcase he let out a sarcastic laugh and told her not to be ludicrous. He turned to look at her, his arrogant but handsome face cold and unfeeling. "Doyou know how long I have waited for you to be better? Its been months and you still are a rotten submissive. You don't know how to behave in this lifestyle and you never will. I have no more time to waste on training you." The haughty tone of his voice chilled her.

Janine tried to still the trembling in her voice, she hated it when she felt weak. "But Paul, I have never had to be in this type of life before, it takes getting used to and understanding all that you expect of me. I have worked hard at it. But learning how to submit is not easy."

He slammed the lid of his suitcase and locked it, "Well Janine that is the problem isn't it? I need a submissive in my life who understands how to, when to, where to, without constant instruction. I need one that understands the consequences if she doesn't submit and accepts them appropriately. Now really, can you see yourself ever doing that?"

The acute misery on her face was all the answer he needed. She could no more tell him that she certainly knew she do that, then she could suddenly fly around the room. The punishments he administered took her breath away but not as she hoped spanking would. He left marks all up and down her thighs and calves. His cane whipped at her bottom unmercifully. She hated being bound in place and made to scream in pain. But she tried, oh how she tried. She kept her collar on at all times, unless he gave her permission to take it off to shower or sleep. Never did she talk back to him but it was the obediance. No matter how much effort she put into it she could not seem to obey him enough.

He always pointed out some aspect that was lacking and therefore needed to be spanked out of her. But his idea of spanking....seemed so far off from what all her fantasies had been.

When she had first met Paul at a friend's spanking party he had seemed to enjoy her silly and sassy behavior. He smacked her bottom playfully and told her to behave herself. Of course her obvious answer was "make me." And that was all it took to get the spanking she had so wanted. He held her tight over his knee and spanked over her skirt before lifting it and lecturing her on what a naughty girl she was. Giggling at what he said brought more stinging spanks but this time with a hairbrush over her panties. As she yelped and ouched, she knew he would give her more. Oh and how she wanted it. Before long her panties were down and she was getting a paddling that had her zoning out as she never had. And that wasn't the end of it. He rubbed and caressed her until she thought she would lose her mind.

When he stood her on her feet she wobbled and he held her and rubbed her back. She leaned into him and was lost in the sensations of her tender bottom, the masculine smell of him, and drowning in his sensual eyes. She was sure this was the man she had been desperately searching for all her adult life.

And now he was gone and she wasn't drowning in his eyes, she was simply drowning. She crawled into bed and pulled the covers up over her. Tears both angry and sorrow filled dampened her pillow. But as miserable as she felt at this moment there was no way she could prepare for what was coming next.

Let It Snow!

There have been a number of posts on my Yahoo group about snow spanking. Now of course we all understand this is not about spanking snow men and women but getting real spankings outdoors in a snowy winter environment. Since I have never had this experience all my thoughts are pure fantasy. However, I do love snow and I am the first kid on the block out there making snow angels so I just know I would love it if I had a really warm bottom to contrast with the icy cold snow.

So rather than a parody of Christmas songs (which I probably will get around to) I thought I might try "Let It Snow". You may skip this next part and I promise not to be offended in the least.

"Oh the weather outside is frightful

But that paddling was delightful

And since you made my bottom glow

Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow

You haven't shown signs of stopping,

And I know I'll get a cropping,

But I love when its nice and slow,

Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow.

When you finally hug me tight,

How I'll love sitting down in a drift

But unless I am glowing bright,

My poor bottom is bound to be miffed.

The cold snow has me sighing

And my endorphin rush is flying

So since we both love this so

Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow.

Well anyone who got through that and is still reading on, I thank you very much. So my lovely readers, lurkers, commenters, followers what do you have to say about the snow and spanking? Were they made for each other or am I nuts? No doubt some of you think anyone who loves snow is a little wacky. But no, its not true, I am not wacky, I just enjoy getting a whack or two in a most convenient place!

Prior question of the week-Positioning

The last question I asked before I disappeared into the ether was about positioning for spanking. Although my very favorite is otk I do enjoy others as well. For example, being over several cushions on a bed can be great for flogging or strapping, It gives the spanker a better range of motion and really makes wrapping less of a possibility. I have also enjoyed being spanked when bent over the top of a table(for example a large desk or kitchen table). This is great for strapping as well but works for any spanking. The drawbacks to the last two is you don't have that lovely physical contact you have with otk but you can always finish up the evening in perfect style bare bottom over a knee getting a bare hand paddling. I will say I have no interest in the diaper position. My big brother has promised he would never do it unless I was in some really big trouble and GC has no interest in it at all. I also can't hold a position without support. For example, I can't hold some of the tradtional caning positions due to physical problems. However, when there is a will there is a way and I have never gone without because of position problems.

Here are some comments from other spankos.

SPANKEDHORTIC said...
Positions I like:-1/ Bent over free standing with hands on knees, while the lady concerned has her non spanking hand holding the back of my neck and hand spanks with the other hand. This sort of has a caring control element to it.2/ Bent over a solid table or work surface with my torso fully supported, this allows one to forget about holding a position and concentrate on the spanking, it also restricts breathing a little and intensifies the experience.3/ Lying flat on a bed, it's just comfortable and nice.Positions I hate:- Touching toes or any other free standing position that puts strain on the knees.A position I want to try:- I think it is called stupidado, hands tied behind the back and suspended from above forcing the spankee into a bending position. It would be nice to hear from anyone who has experienced this.Prefectdt

Janelle said...
The bondage position you are referring to is called, 'strappado,' and there is information on it you might find interesting on Wikipedia.org, complete with a hot picture! No, I haven't tried it, but I would like to!I would like to try bent over free standing with the spanker holding me by my hair with the non spanking hand, or holding me around my waist. Definitely bent over, no matter what, and with some type of support. I don't like laying flat on a bed; the embarrassment of being made to bend over adds to the experience for me.

Purple Angel said: Strappado is a torture technique and must be adapted and used with tremendous care. Dislocated or broken joints are not the least bit enjoyable.

A.S.S. said...
We both prefer the same position... spanker sitting on a bed or couch with spankee laid over the lap. That way head and feet are flat and supported. No strain on the knees/hips/etc and no blood rushing to the head. It's perfect for long spankings and it allows the focus to be where it needs to be. Also a comfortable position for the spanker.For shorter spanking, lots of other positions work... and we like many of those. And for an erotic spanking, the diaper position works quite nicely. But as a general rule, we put overall comfort when it comes to position.:)Todd and Suzy

Maryann Sloan said...
Purple,Don't know how I missed this, sorry I'm so late.I love OTK with the hand. No doubt about it, my favorite.But... I also like positions that work well for a good paddling from a wooden paddle: over the end of the bed or couch, on hands and knees on bed (not good for a long spanking), lying face down on bed either elevated by pillows under the tush or not, and standing, bent over holding the seat of a chair. I don't much like anything too weird or convuluted, like over the end of the bed with head/hands on floor, or complicated like folded into a rocker/recliner in some upside down and backward way. I also do NOT like anything freestanding, like bend over, grab your ankles, hold still. Yeah, right! You try it, buddy!I like to be held firmly in place, but not trapped, if that makes sense. Don't actually tie me down or sit on me. I need the illusion that I could get away and it is only his strong hands keeping me in place. Nice.Fun topic, thanks.Maryann

Tigger4MC said...
Strappado is meant to dislocate the shoulders - and would be extremely painful - WAY too painful for me!

Question of the Week-Getting What You Need

I found these wonderful panties at the Spanking Bethie blog, which I really enjoy. I would also enjoy finding these panties somewhere. I did just by a pair of bright red ones from Paddlemaster that say "Assets" but I am always on the lookout for great panties.

However, this blog is really not about panties, its about getting what you need. In this case it is not food or water, its spanking. It would be helpful, especially for the newbies out there, if you could tell how you got your first or any other spanking. Do you have to ask, "Please spank me", are you bratty to the point that spanking is the only thing your partner can think of, are all your spankings discipline, or do you just have to whisper in his ear, "Guess what I want". At that point if he says, "A trip to Home Depot", he gets a spanking for being a smart ass.

I know I am taking this lightly but its tough when you are just starting out. And it doesn't matter if you are male of female it is still a difficult situation.

So my friends, give it up for the cause, how do you manage to get spanked and/or how did you get your first spanking. And yes, I promise to post mine.

Happy Thanksgiving

I do hope all of you had a wonderful Thanksgiving if you were celebrating today. I was celebrating although my feast was the always popular ginger ale and jello. I remember an old Erma Bombeck piece on the same sort of thing for Christmas since her kids always managed to be ill right in time for the holidays.

In any case I know I have a great deal to be grateful for every day of the year and not just this one. I do thank all of you that read my blog and comment on it. It is so appreciated. Finding myself in this lifestyle is one of my greatest joys. I think the two ladies in the picture are enjoying it too. (disclaimer:no this is not meant to depict real pilgrims and Native Americans, honest). I appreciate the comments I get on stories I write and it keeps me motivated to keep writing.

I am lucky enough to have a roof over my head, food in my pantry, three terrific cats, a great son, other family members that love me, wonderful friends both spicy and vanilla, a big brother that is always looking out for me, and then there is my GC. He is in a category all by himself.

I was amazed to see that I have over 60,000 hits on this site. And if I keep my promise to be more consistent and start getting around to other groups I know I will also enjoy it that much more.

Happy Holiday and take care

The only thing I missed out on was being warmly spanked as I thanked.

Rantful Delight

WARNING......I am not a happy camper. Anyone in the midst of holiday happiness, stop right here and read no further. Most of this blog is not about spanking although I should be spanked for being a brat and writing it to begin with. First off I used to love holidays. I cleaned, cooked, decorated....didn't even matter if it was a holiday that belonged to my particular affiliation. Nope, I was right there celebrating with everyone in my family and my friends.

As I have gotten older this has changed tremendously but this year is really the worst. I had made plans to be with one of my dearest friends and her family on Thanksgiving. She became a grandmother this spring and I hadn't seen the baby yet so I couldn't wait. Evidently the humorous nature of karma will have me waiting a while more since I now have a fever over 103 and we are not sure if it is the flu or caused by a new medication. So I will be going nowhere and, of course, I don't want anyone over here in my hobbit hole in case I have something that can fly from one person to the next.

Now I do realize I am suffering from post party let down but this is just plain ridiculous. I am sure by the time this is over there will be a permanent pout on my face since my muscles will have frozen in that position. Hmm but that might be good for spanking events.

That's the other problem, no warm spanks for giving thanks. Now what kind of holiday is it with no spanking? Why its no holiday at all.

I do hope all of you have a terrific holiday, please eat lots of goodies for me even if you are on Todd and Suzy's diet site. I will think of you as I sip the traditional Thanksgiving ginger ale and spoon down delightful sugar free jello.

Ok, the whining is down, have a wonderful holiday, in all actuality we all have much to be thankful for.

Spanksgiving and Getting

Now doesn't this look like a party? No our party didn't look a thing like this but I thought there might be some tops out there that would enjoy the fantasy.

Our party was great and I did think of many of the people I know on blogs who I wish could attend. This was the second party I have given for my group Our Need and Desire. My parties are quite a bit smaller than Florida Moonshine, and Shadow Lane. There were about thirty people there this time and did we ever have a blast.

Now first of all you must understand that Thursday night before the party I was at home finishing up all the print outs for the party bags. Guess what.....you'll never guess. My printer broke. Yep, right in the middle of all that work. I had to take it apart and put it back together again. Basically I got so hyped I never got to sleep that night!

But the party was just as wonderful as I thought. The hotel was kind enough to put all our hotel rooms in a block right down from the party room. No elevators! It was also interesting that there was a lot more spanking in the party room this time than previously and I noticed much more female switching and F/f spanking. That does not mean the guys were left out, perish the thought.

Of course GC was there to paint my posterior as was my big brother. I played with new friends and friends I had met before. I was introduced to new implements, one of which I really think I won't be needing again. That was the infamous Loopy Johnny. Yikes!

We had many donated prizes from three marvelous vendors. Several of the items were adorable panties with adorable sayings. I decided these would be raffled off and the money would go to breast cancer research. Those seven pair of panties made 75.oo dollars. Prizes were given to the two people who named the party. There were many door prizes as well. The grand prize was a one of a kind handmade paddle from PaddlemasterPro that said Our Need and Desire 2008.

The three vendors I am simply amazed at for their generosity are:

www.roseybottom.com

www.paddlemasterpro.com

www.nancysbasement.com

We had book marks, buttons, door hangers, hair brushes, and paddles to give out as prizes plus an adorable pair of silver paddle earrings.

I came home with a lovely tingling bottom after playing with several people and having more than several implements used including a lovely caning.

At one point though, I did ask GC to just give me a bare bottom hand spanking. He does it so well and it was lovely, a true high point.

If you have never attended a party give it some consideration, no one will force or pressure you into doing anything you don't want to. Sometimes just the chance to socialize with like minded people is great.

I Admit its all True

Well yes, I have to admit its all true,

I have been a brat,

Not doing what I should do.

My blogging friends are such angels you see,

And then there is naughty forgetful,

Bratty little me.

No, its not an excuse I admit with a sigh.

But wait, what are you doing?

Not even a moment's gone by.

Hey you don't need to unbuckle that belt,

You did that before

I don't like how it felt.

Oh no you don't, I say with a stomp,

Just try to catch me,

We're off on a romp.

Of course I knew before we got going,

He'd catch me quite soon,

All that Toppy blood flowing.

I squirm and I kick as we "dance"toward the couch

My fists swing around

And I hear him yell "OUCH".

He has to let go to grab at the smack,

I smile quite smugly

And back up on our tracks.

He stands up quite tall, the belt at his side

Now the smile's on his face,

All my tricks have been tried.

I am easy to catch for I backed up by the wall

I go over his shoulder

As he walks down the hall.

So into the bedroom this naughty brat goes,

Stood up on the floor,

And off with her clothes.

Before I can think, my bottom is bare,

Over pillows he's placed

On the bed with a flair.

A hand round my waist, swift licks of the strap,

I howl and cry as I try to get up.

But I am held as tight as if I was on his lap.

He tells me how naughty and careless I've been,

Ignoring the promises I made to repent,

Still I continued that terrible blogless sin.

I know that my bottom is crimson and burning,

Soon he holds me in his arms,

"What lesson are you learning?"

The brat fades away as I sniffle and weep,

I promise to do as I should on my blog.

And this is a promise I do mean to keep.

So to friends and lurkers I have left in the dark,

My crimson red glow will certainly help,

Find that blog that now I will try to keep a'spark.

Purple Angel

Yes I Have Been Ignoring my Job

I must apologize to all the readers of my blog. The reports of my demise are just not true.

My Yahoo group is having a party next weekend, I spent seven glorious days with the love of my life, my fibromyalgia decided it was time to pay a ghastly visit, and good grief before I knew it I hadn't written a blog in forever. To say nothing of the fact that I have not been visiting the other blogs I enjoy so much. So if anyone needs a spanking it is me. I am reasonably sure that can be taken care of next weekend!

Once again I will be going to a spanking party that I am in charge of organizing. It is a great pleasure, after Iall I am a teacher and throwing parties is something we can do as well as teaching reading. Many new members will be coming to the party and of course some of the members that have been in the group a long time and came to the May party.

So I will catch you up as the week goes on. My wonderful week with GC, which went by so fast I couldn't believe it. I will also fill you in on before and after details of the party. And for those of you that responded to the post on positioning I will complete that and try to be a very good blogger and keep up.

Take care and hope all had a happy chocolate filled Halloween!

An Elegant Spanko

Your result for The elegant spankability Test...

The Winner!

You scored 91 elegance and 87 spankability!

An absolutely stunningly high score for spankability, matched with an equally stunning high score for elegance!
You have won! Congratulations! You're cooler than the lovechild of, let's see, Bjork and Lord Byron, and more spankable than two dolphins leaning over a gate!

Er, that last simile may need some explanation. You see, cetologists have established that a dolphin is essentially a buttock with a tail at one end and a beak at the other. That's why they so often travel in pairs. Scientific fact.
But I should also clarify that the author of this test harbours no improper thoughts or desires concerning our ocean-going mammal friends. that would be lower than Gottlob Frick's voice, Aaron Spelling's brow and a televangelist's belly. I'm hot for similes, not cetacea. Just sayin'.
So contact me if you like, you winner you, and I'll send you your prize: I believe it's a picture of a fluffy bunny.

Question of the Week-positioning

You can probably take a pretty good guess at this week's question by the posted pictures. Three different positions for the same activity. And, of course, there are more than these three. So the question this week is about positioning.

If you are a spanker what positions do you prefer and why. I know lots of people like over the knee, but are there any others you really think are helpful for different types of spankings? Which ones present that bottom just the way you want it? Does embarrassment lend itself to part of the spanking and therefore call for a different position?

If you are a spankee which positions do you love, and which do you hate? Are there any that are a hard line NO for you? And if there are, why do you feel that way about them. Does the position have anything to do with the person spanking you? Inotherwords are you more comfortable in certain positions with your SO while you would never consider them for play at a party.

And if there are any positions you have never tried but think would be interesting ask the group about them. Maybe we can get some helpful info for you.

So my friends which way do you prefer to get that sunny side up?

Spanking Furniture

I am so bad! My question of the week almost turned into my question of the month. But I really did find the responses interesting and I am glad to share them with all of you.

For my own response, I have never been spanked over anything but a lap, pillow and table. So I don't know how I would respond to spanking furniture. I think it would be fun to try at least once and I have had friends that responded very positively to the experience. Might be a way to really let go and give yourself to it when you know you are securely restrained. But I know I would never prefer it to being over GC's lap, warm and secure, feeling his hand on my backside. Nothing will ever compare to that. So here are the responses I received.

Johninill said...
I've always wanted to try my hand at making something like this. Haven't done it since there's a scarcity (to say the least) of those who would come to my house to use it. With some implements you really need some kind of device for the spankee. You may/may not use the restraints depending on whether you want to throw in a little bondage.

SPANKEDHORTIC said...
I have on several occasions used other peoples spanking furniture but unfortunately do not own any. the formality of being positioned and/or tied over a piece of furniture that has no other purpose than to be used for punishment, has a formality to it that has a ceremonial quality, this really flips some switches in my mental head space. Due to several reasons, I cannot play in my own home but one of my lottery winning fantasies is having a play room with dozens of specialist pieces of spanking furniture.

Wintermute said...
I've always wanted a special "spanking room" that would be decorated in a Victorian theme. In my imaginary spanking room there would be a spanking bench like the one shown in the picture. Although I'd like something more stylish and less dungeon looking.To me the attraction of the spanking bench is that its great for caning and whipping. The naughty girl is entirely exposed for both punishment and penetration (in what ever way her top might desire).But so far the spanking bench is only a fantasy. In general I prefer voluntary submission, not bondage. But I'd make an exception for a spanking bench

Cheryl said...
I have never been interested in spanking furniture. To me, a spanking bench lacks the human element that I enjoy when being spanked--namely, the feel of my spanker's free hand around my waiste. When I'm being spanked, I'm right where I want to be at that particular time so there's no need for any restraints. Believe me, no one is going to tie me down against my will. I really don't have any use for spanking furniture, but will admit to a slight amount of curiosity.Smiles,Cheryl

Our Bottoms Burn said...
We have two spanking benches, both home made. One is a kneeling bench, the other you bend over it. They do not get a lot of use, but they are there for variety. When restrained, your mind does a few flips, because you know you are not going anywhere until released.


Ted said...
Would someone please make an inflatable model for apartment dwellers?

jody said...
When I'm submissive, I prefer to be in bondage for a punishment type of spanking, or whipping, preferably with a switch, or belt. When the pain nears, or goes over my tolerance level I tend to try to turn over, or cover my butt with my hands, and bondage prevents that, so the punishment is thorough! Nothing works better to put me in an obedient, submissive state of mind....Janelle

Maryann Sloan said...
Visually it looks awful to me. It reminds me more of torture than fun. I like fun, happy spankings. I enjoy and benefit from more intense spankings, too, but the presence of something like that in the room would be a huge turn off to me.Maryann

A.S.S. said...
We've used a spanking bench before... and they are fun. But for us, they are just for play. Wouldn't do a DD spanking with one. Just don't offer that personal touch that OTK does.:)Todd and Suzy

CurtisG said...
I'm a switch who's into spanking for fun, play, sensuality and erotic stimulation (not necessarily all together). The idea of spanking furniture does nothing for me. I want physical contact with the woman I'm spanking or who's spanking me. That is not necessarily limited to (but is preferred) to OTK. There are things like sitting on the spankee's back or perhaps (I've never tried it) riding a spankee like a horse. But physical contact for intimacy and reactions are necessary for my enjoyment.

Thanks to all that posted, it was enlightening! I will put the next question in a new post.

Hugs to all,
Purple Angel

Last Call for a Terrific Party

Last Call!!
Our Need and Desire
Invites you to a weekend of thanks for the spanks!




November Spanksgiving and Getting

November 14-16 2008
Arlington Heights, Illinois

Party fee-$50.00 per person
Hotel rooms-$89.00 a night, sleeps 3-4
Includes hot breakfast each morning
Party fee includes Friday and Saturday night dinner plus snacks and soft drinks all weekend.

Hotel Registrations taken until OCTOBER 24th!!
From that point on you are not guaranteed to be in our block of rooms.

Please send your fee to
Our Need and Desire
1604 Coronado Drive
Suite 12
Champaign, Illinois 61820

Include the following information:

Badge Name____________________________________

Real Name_________________________________________

Circle one: top bottom switch not playing

If you need financial help please explain in this space___________

_____________________________________________________

Please let me know if you have any food allergies or if you are a vegetarian___________________________________________

_____________________________________________________

An email address where I may contact you ___________________

Please be sure to bring the receipt you will receive after I get your registration with you, as well as picture ID. We hope you can join us for a great weekend with loads of fun, food, prizes, and oh yes, SPANKING!

Valorie
vcm1413@sbcglobal.net






Our hotel features the following:

Ø 7 miles from O’Hare International Airport.
Ø provides complimentary parking for all guests.
Ø provides complimentary shuttle service from 7:00 am through 11:00 pm. Service includes, O’Hare International Airport, nearby restaurants and attractions within a 5 mile radius, the Wood Field Mall and much more.
Ø provides Complimentary Deluxe Continental Breakfast with Hot Items every morning including Japanese selections.
Ø Complimentary Hi-Speed Wireless Internet is provided for all guests in both the guestrooms and the public areas.
Ø Hotel has 2 meeting rooms; the Elm Room is 375 sq/ft and can accommodate 20 people in a classroom set-up, 20 conference, 20 U-shape and 35 theatre. The Grove Room is 950 sq/ft and can accommodate 60 people in a classroom set-up, 40 conference, 40 U-shape and 75 theatre style.

Additional Hotel Features:
Ø Oversized rooms renovated in June 2007.
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Ø Fitness center on the first floor
Ø Upgraded bathroom amenities – Smart Bath
Ø 24-Hour Lobby Coffee and Tea Service
Ø Rooms with Coffee Maker, Coffee, Iron, Ironing Board, Hair Dryer, Clock Radio
Ø Complimentary Weekday Newspaper
Ø Complimentary TV Japan in the guest rooms
Ø Complimentary Local and Toll Free Telephone Calls
Ø Complimentary Business Center

Question of the Week-Spanking Furniture

When I first saw pictures of spanking furniture, my opinion was that they looked like something straight out of the Spanish Inquisition. Of course now that I understand the need for all the restraints.....or do I? I have no experience on a bench, horse, or other piece of spanking furniture. Are those restraints a necessity or a visual turn on? And does a spanking over a piece of equipment lack the same connection and feeling you get over a lap or with an arm around your waist?

So the question this week is what do you think of spanking furniture? Do you use it and enjoy it? Have you ever been curious about it? Whatever comment you might like to make would be appreciated. And it would be great to hear from tops, bottoms, and switches. Is it the visual display or the chance to have someone totally under control...or a little of both?

A Spanker's Responsibility

Last week's question was "what is a spanker's responsibility"? It didn't matter what kind of spanking or whether it was m/f, f/m or any other combination. There were some terrific answers and I am happy to share them. Tomorrow I will post another question. But meanwhile here is some real food for thought on a subject near and dear to every one of us.

Maryann Sloan said...
Hi. I am new to your blog and I like what I have seen.I am a spankee and my needs are simple:1. spank meIt is amazing how difficult it is sometimes to get turned over his knee! Just do it already.2. Talk to meTell me I'm beautiful. Tell me I'm a brat. Tell me you are angry with me or I disappointed you. Tell me something!3. Hold me afterwards. No matter how fun or playful a spanking is, I still want/need to be held.That't it. But of the three, I'd say number one is number one! Just do it!Maryann

Cigi said...
I find as a spankee that too many spankers want to try to spank me for some reason; to make me feel like I am being punished. I don't need that and, in fact, it often will ruin a scene for me. What I think is a spanker's first responsibility is listening. Listen to us when we tell you what we like...listen when we tell you what we don't like. Don't take our smiles and laughter as a challenge..we aren't laughing at your spanking, we are laughing and smiling because we are enjoying it immensely.When you hear a safeword, stop IMMEDIATELY! Don't say "Are you gonna wimp out on me?" or "You can take one more". We educated people about the sanctity of the safeword, both tops and bottoms. When someone uses their safeword it means "Stop this right now!" It should be heeded.I don't really believe aftercare is a spanker's responsibility but it sure goes a long way towards endearing the spanker to me. I don't mind a hug and a pat on the fanny when we're done but if you broke skin or caused abraded skin, it's a responsible top who tries to help take care of the problem.I believe a spanker's responsibility is also to learn the safe way to spank, the safe places and the safe methods. This is just my opinion and I could write a whole blog myself on the subjct. Thanks for the thought provoking blog, Val.Love ya!Cigi

Cheryl said...
Hey, Purple, great question and not something I've thought about since I was a relative newbie.I have definite feelings regarding what I believe a top is responsible for. First and foremost, any top who spanks others is responsible for providing a safe and reassuring environment for whoever he/she is spanking. It's pretty hard to enjoy a spanking when you can't relax.Secondly, a top is responsible for giving the bottom the kind of spanking she/he asks for. If a bottom asks you for something you either can't or won't give, then have the guts to say so. This should be discussed before the first spank falls.Third, a top is responsible for the physical and emotional well-being of the one he/she is spanking. That means know how to safely use the toys you own. Emotionally, don't purposely take a bottom anywhere she/he doesn't want to go. We all know that things sometimes happen that we didn't plan for. But never, under any circumstances, do these things with intent. These are the things I believe are the most important. There are lots of others, but I don't want my answer to be longer than the post LOL.Again, great question, Purple. I am chomping at the bit to see you at your party.Love,Cheryl

A.S.S. said...
Had you said "goals" the question would have been extremely difficult because the "goals" of a spanking change not only based on the type of spanking... but it varies from spanking to spanking.But "responsibility" is much easier. A spanker is responsible for being safe and ensuring a spanking doesn't veer off in a way that would 'damage' their spankee. That means physically or mentally. Just don't want to push to a place that the spankee truly did not want to go.:)Todd and Suzy

Wintermute said...
I was going to write something in response to this excellent question, but Cheryl said everything that I was going to say and probably stated it more clearly. So I will confine myself to complementing Cheryl for her answer.Wintermute

Purple Angel said...
Thank you all for your comments, I will be writing a summary for a blog over the weekend. Just wanted to throw in a few cents worth. Since I am a switch I am both spanker and spankee. When I am the one topping I feel a tremendous sense of responsibility to the bottom's welfare, especially if this involves discipline. And if a bottom should zone or hit sub space they often need help because it is a bit like being drunk, you are just not sure what is going on. I know that since I have visited a time or two myself.Cigi and Cheryl, what well written and beautifully thought out answers. I can always rely on the two of you to look at the issue squarely and speak to it.Welcome Maryann, and I have to agree! JUST DO IT!! I also agree with your other comments. Spanking tends to make me sleepy(well sometimes)and being held is such a joy. That is why bedtime spanking is wonderful. ToddnSuzy I have to agree, the spanker is responsible for never pushing the limits that have been set without permission. If I was going to talk about a spankee's responsibility it would definitely be that you state your limits clearly and not expect anyone to read your mind.Wintermute, I couldn't agree with you more about Cheryl's response.Thanks to you all for commenting.Hugs,Purple Angel

Sandi said...
I want a spanking that lets me know that he is in control. Love smacks are alright for lovemaking, but a real spanking should be hard enough to make me cry. I want to be held after too. Being shown that I am loved is a very important part of the spanking experience for me. I like the ritual part of being spanked as well, being told to take my pants off, having my panties taken down to my knees, and then off. I don't much like the corner though.

Sandi I am right with you on corner time, I think it is ridiculous.

Hugs Purple Angel

None of my cats will even try!

I have tried to teach my cats to wield a paddle or brush. After all I live with three of them, I must get on their nerves from time to time. What a perfect opportunity for a spanking. But will they cooperate? No way! In fact if they see the toy bag come out they leave the room and go to sleep on the couch. What a trio of wet blankets.

In any case I decided this picture had to be seen since they wouldn't take my word for it.