Sunday, January 27, 2008

A Musical Delight?

Well, I doubt this will win any Grammy awards but it is pretty funny. I had to go looking for it when I noticed it in another video I posted about spanking about two weeks ago. Actually this looks like alot more fun than I ever had playing my violin in the school orchestra. I would suggest you turn down your sound a bit. The spankees aren't loud but the crowd is very annoying at times. Perhaps they should have been next on the program!

Saturday, January 26, 2008

A Spanking Good Time


I just looked at the title of this post and realized it could have been, "How I Spent My Winter Vacation". This is the first time in a very long time, I have gotten on a plane and gone somewhere I had never been before. As the plane took off, so did the flock of butterflies that are always in residence within my stomach. It was a beautiful flight and I remembered how much I enjoyed flying.
We had told each other what we would be wearing so there would be no awkward searching at the airport. However, it really wasn't necessary, I would have recognized him anywhere. And it was lovely to be welcomed with a big hug and a pat on my backside.
His home is beautiful and in a rural wooded area. We picked up a pizza on the way home so we could spend our first few hours getting to know each other. Not that we hadn't spent a good deal of time on the phone talking but somehow it is different face to face.
After dinner he took my hand and said, "Come with me", and led me into the living room. Now he had told me over the phone that he had four couches and he intended to make sure all four met with my approval. So he sat down and over his knee I went for a lovely spanking that I had been waiting for all throughout the day. He enjoys spanking with his hand and believe me I had no complaints whatsoever. This was also the first time I have ever been spanked over clothing as he said he liked the feel of my bottom through the jeans I was wearing. I must admit it certainly added to the delicious sting. The spanks were interspersed with rubbing and squeezing. Oh my it was wonderful. A beautiful outdoor setting beyond the windows, a lovely room, terrific pizza, AND a man who really knows how to give a fantastic sensual spanking. And that was only the beginning of the evening. He assured me that it was crucial to give each couch its due.
As I went to make a phone call and send some emails to let everyone know I had arrived safely, my hand drifted to my tingling backside and rubbed it gently. Ah I certainly had a premonition that this was just the start of an amazing time. And to add to it he is also a switch. I couldn't wait to see and feel what would happen next!! Oh and as for the picture, he is extremely fond of sports, especially baseball. But we did watch the two extremely important football games on Sunday and had given some thought to watching them in the position in the picture. I'll let you know what happened.

Monday, January 21, 2008

Ooops Sorry

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I can't believe in all the hustle and bustle I forgot to post that I would be gone from Saturday until Thursday. A gentleman( in the truest sense) invited me to come and visit him. This is the first time I have been out of Illinois in years. Truly it is a lovely vacation. His home is beautiful and the area surrounding it is as well. I can see mountains and trees. Every time we go for a drive I have seen deer just sort of moseying along.

Best of all he embraces the same lifestyle I do. That is also a great pleasure I assure you. When I get back I am sure I will regale you with some of the spankings I have gotten and given. I don't think I could write about them all.

In any case take care!

Thursday, January 17, 2008

A Matter of Definition



The topic of private or witnessed spanking comes up quite a bit on some of the groups I belong to, especially Crimson Moon around party time. I used to think it was pretty cut and dry. Private meant you and one other person, and witnessed was others watching. But I think there is more to it than that. So I thought I would share my definitions of these terms and when I think each may or may not be appropriate in my opinion and, actually, for me. I can't speak about what works for anyone else.


So the first type is a private spanking. I think there are two types. One is the spanker and spankee together and one may be a spanking where another person is involved. For example if I was being disciplined for something I had done that affected someone else they may very well have the right to witness the spanking. It would still be private from anyone uninvolved. I also feel that discipline spankings are best handled in private, they are two personal/intimate for a public display. I also feel intensely erotic spankings are best done privately for obvious reasons. Privacy, from my point of view, includes closed doors and a reasonable assurance that you can't be heard if the goings on get a bit loud.


When I get disciplined it usually means no clothes and this is another reason for privacy. I know being spanked for being a bad girl may involve a certain amount of embarrassment but I don't want to be humiliated. That is not part of what I need or want. A fiery red bottom is great but a fiery red face is not necessary in my opinion.


Now to open the category of witnessed spankings just a little further it could also include a small group of spankos who are getting together for some fun or play spanking. Perhaps a spanking bench is used. While the group may witness the spankings it is not open to the public and, in my definition, would be people who have a certain comfort level with each other.
Which brings us to public spankings. Now in the context of a spanking party atmosphere these have come to mean spankings given in a party room where any party attendee may be present. In this context it only refers to those in the lifestyle/scene.
But what about the wider public? How about those fabulous outdoor spanking fantasies that have the (very rare but possible) viewing of vanilla public? Is a couple of swats on the bottom in a grocery store a public spanking? See what I mean, so much of it is definition.
And how do I feel about it?
1. Discipline is a private matter for me whether I am the top or the bottom
2. No problem being spanked for fun or play in front of others in the lifestyle although if it were a large party group I would probably want the only bare part of me to be my bottom.
3. Still hoping that I get to live that outdoor spanking fantasy as long as the possibility of being seen is almost nil.
4. Erotic spanking is private, always.
5. Certainly never mind a little swat on the backside over my clothes in public.
So? Where are your boundaries?

Sunday, January 13, 2008

Cute Video

http://dailytang.com/vlog/2007/07/06/spanking-edition/


Don't know how many of you have already seen this but it is kind of cute and I thought I would share it with my blog readers as well as my group members. Enjoy! Although it is obvious this girl has never had a real spanking in her life!!

Hugs,
Purple Angel(sorry couldn't resist adding the new tag I made too, lol)

Saturday, January 12, 2008

Safewords, their place in this world


When I first started out in this lifestyle I was told I always, yes always, needed a safeword. And actually it made perfect sense. Part of being spanked are words like ouch, no, stop etc. Its just part of the whole situation. I know very few spankos who just look at their nails while being spanked and heave a sigh of boredom. And if they are they need to find another spanker.

So I had my safewords. Like so many I had the traffic light colors for safewords. Red for stop right now, yellow for please slow down a bit, and green for hey what are you waiting for. Now the problem was that I was letting my submissive side govern me and I wasn't sure it was appropriate for a true submissive to use a safe word. Hey this lifestyle can have its confusing moments. In fact the first real spanking I ever got I had to turn around and say, "Are you sure you have spanked me enough?" So safewords never entered the picture and the unfortunate part is that the one time I should have used one I didn't.

I played with someone I met I on the internet. Now I did everything I was supposed to. We emailed, chatted, met for coffee and got to know each other. Then, even though, there was the tiniest bit of "maybe not" in my gut I agreed to play. Things started off alright but then he lost his temper. The loose cannon I had recognized in him came to life in one horrible moment. No, you don't need the details except one. I include it because I really don't want anyone else to go through this. He whacked me so hard on the side of my hip with a wooden paddle that he forced the replaced hip through the pelvic bone. Needless to say my hip had to be replaced again. Now in all fairness, the hip had not been put in properly but his final blow was the finishing touch.

Yes, from that point on I became the most careful of women. First of all I NEVER play with anyone I have the least weird vibe from. I follow my intstincts and they have worked well for me. And fortunately from that point on I never had to safeword again.

OK, let's fast forward. Now I have two men in my life that hold me accountable. My "older brother" let me know that there would be no safe words between us. I was shocked to say the least. He explained that he always has a safe word with women he plays with or does not know well. But with women he knows very well and the ones who are accountable to him he learns our body language and when it is obvious we have taken what is necessary to get a point across. And of course during those lovely play spankings a safe word would never be necessary. In fact I never want those to end.

So I have two different standards whether I am being spanked or spanking someone else. With those I know very well and love very well there is no safeword. The safeword is our love for each other.

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

Shared Responsibility


Marissa stood gazing intensely out the window. Her long, deep brown hair hung down her back and she held her hands to her chest as though praying for a miracle. And,perhaps as she stood there she really was looking for angelic intervention. At the moment, still dressed in her loose, white, silky robe she looked the part of an angel but was lost in thoughts of extremely non angelic behavior. Unfortunately she knew Eric would totally agree with this assessment.

When she woke up this morning he had already left for work. Yesterday there had been a great deal of tension between them due to discussions of their financial situation. He had made it very clear that they both were guilty of overspending during the holidays. And he was also clear that it was his fault as much as hers. He told her she really was not deserving of punishment in any way since they had both created the situation together. This was extremely unusual for Eric but they had wanted to really have a spectacular Christmas and also provide one for all their family and friends. While everything had certainly turned out beautifully the bills that were going to show up would become a true stress in their life. She tried to downplay the problem while he was intent on helping her understand the bind they were in at the moment. Marissa insisted that it wouldn’t be as bad as Eric thought. However, he had sat down with her, producing all the recipts from both cash and credit payments, pointing out what it would do to them over the next year.

In fact Marissa had been surprised at how anxious Eric had been to really go all out this Christmas. He was always a generous and giving man but usually was extremely careful with finances. As she stared out the window some of it started to make some sense. Eric’s sister was very ill and might not be with them by next Christmas. At this point she was seeing that as a possibility for his need to truly make this a fairy tale Christmas for the whole family.

They had not only bought lovely presents but new decorations for the house and the tree. Marissa had been in her elements since she was very artisitic and had put together a lovely yet light hearted look to their house. Eric had totally loved it and thanked her many times for doing such a fantastic job. Family members had also been very complimentary and Eric’s sister, with tears in her eyes, had hugged Marissa and thanked her for what she considered her best Christmas ever.

Unfortunately her spending spree, encouraged by Eric had not stopped at Christmas this year. Guilt consumed her since he did not yet know about the purchases she had made the day after Christmas without even consulting him. The sales were just too good to pass up. As she gazed out the window,realization set in that she has to tell him tonight. Waiting for the bills to come was just not an option, they had to plan how to handle this. They already had a budget in place for dealing with the holiday spending and now she had to tell Eric that it was worse than they initially thought. And, of course, all the items she had bought at 50-75% off could not be returned.

She was not looking forward to the undoubtedly severe spanking she would receive, but there was a part of her that needed it badly and the forgiveness it would bring. Although they would really have to work to figure out a solution to the problem she was hoping with all her heart he could forgive her foolishness.

Marissa sighed and began removing the coffee cups left on the kitchen table wishing the day would pass more quickly so they can get past what is going to be a most unpleasant discussion and then reconnect as lovers. She made up her mind to tell Eric as soon as he got home. There was no point in waiting, it would only increase her anxiety.

The day passed slowly, almost an agonizing duration as she waited for the inevitable. She worked for several hours on the computer at both her online job and her writing. Laundry also occupied her time as did straightening an already straightened house.

Finally she decided to take a shower, and just put her robe back on. It was nearly time for Eric to come home and her brown eyes sparkled with tears as she dreaded the disappointment in his face and the tone of his voice when he realized she had pushed them right out of an already burning frying pan into the actual fire itself.

Once again she found herself standing at the window, her hands before her as in supplication. Eric pulled into the driveway and her stomach began fluttering nervously.

She greeted him at the door with a huge hug. “Hey now this is great, I could stand this every day. Wonder what I did to deserve such loving attention.” There was a teasing tone in his voice and a smile that lit up his blue eyes, until he saw Marissa’s face. “Oh baby what’s wrong, you look like it’s the end of the world, what happened?”

“Oh Eric…”Marissa began and then burst into tears.

He pulled her to the rocking chair, sat down and held her on his lap, rubbing her back and soothing her. “Ok love, what’s going on. I know its not truly serious or you would have called me at work. Tell me what’s happened. You know we can work out anything together.”

At that moment Marissa needed to hear those words more than anything else in the world. She blurted out what had happened after Christmas, all the shopping she had done for next year and the money she had spent that they did not have. Tears poured down her lovely face as she confessed. Eric continued to stroke her back, although he did start to look very serious and concerned at what his wife was saying.

She laid her head on his shoulder when she finished her confession, still quietly crying. Eric sighed deeply, he was torn several ways. He knew Marissa should not have done this yet he felt part of it was his fault. Their before Christmas shopping expeditions had certainly given her the idea that all this was just fine. And he was beginning to realize that although he was the head of their household, Marissa had to start working on the finances with him. Treating her as a child and keeping all that information to himself was just not appropriate in a relationship, even one based on domestic discipline. She was his wife after all.

“Ok Marissa, let’s go over this one step at a time. Do you still have all your receipts?” She nodded immediately, Eric always insisted she keep receipts and note checks written. “Good, then later this evening we will add them to the payments we already have on the charge cards and refigure what we are going to have to do to avoid paying as many finance charges as possible.”

Marissa looked at him feeling totally ashamed of herself, “Eric I am so sorry, you have no idea how badly I feel. It did’t occur to me until we talked that we were in deep financial trouble. I should have thought about it but I didn’t.” She hung her head.

Lifting her chin with his finger Eric looked into her beautiful eyes, “Marissa this is just as much my fault as yours. I am going to spank you but it is for buying without checking it out with me first as we have agreed. However, not knowing about the situation is my fault since I have pretty much left you in the dark where our finances are concerned. Sometimes I get way too deep into this head of household routine and try and protect you from the truth. That has to stop. From now on we face everything together. Understand?”

Hugging Eric hard she agreed and, in fact, felt quite relieved. She wanted to be part of their marriage, a partner and help to Eric. It was clear to her that certain aspects wouldn’t change. She would still be accountable for making the wrong decision and her backside would pay, but she wanted to be the helpmate Eric deserved.

With a serious look he asked her if she felt she deserved to be spanked. Although her stomach fluttered as it always did, she quietly agreed that she did. She admitted that she had gone shopping without discussing it with him and bought much more than she had intended.

“Alright then young lady, let’s get the unpleasantness over with”. Marissa understood what that meant and with shaky legs and teary eyes she stood and then laid over Eric’s lap. He pulled her white gauzy robe up over her back, baring her bottom. “Marissa you are not being spanked for what the two of us did at Christmas, but you are being spanked for going shopping and spending a great deal of money on unnecessary items without discussing it with me first.”

In a quivering voice she answered, “Yes Eric Idid and I am truly sorry, especially since I added to an already serious financial problem.”

There was no response from Eric except for the first spank on her backside. The first one was always just a hot sting but she knew the fire would most certainly build. The spanks were soundly given as he alternated from one side to the other. Marissa soon went from quiet tears to howling and promising to never overspend again. Finally ten solid spanks fell on each side of the sit spot and then the spanking stopped. Marissa waited sniffing and sobbing for Eric to pick up a hairbrush or paddle and continue but he did’nt. He rubbed her backside gently and kissed the back of her neck. “Sweetheart I don’t really believe you deserve more than you just got. Not unless we find someone to spank me too. I helped create this whole mess and I can’t hold just you accountable. However, from this point on my love you will be fully aware of our financial situation and I expect you to act accordingly.

Eric helped Marissa off his lap and then stood up to hold her in his arms. Through her tears she thanked him but said she wasn’t sure he really punished her enough.

He shook his head, “My love discipline is to help you learn, and this time we both needed to learn. You may get spanked but I have to accept responsibility too.” He took her by the hand and led her to the bedroom. “But for now you need to have your bottom cared for and to be honest I could use some care too.” He grinned and wiped away her tears, “Think you could provide some care for your naughty husband?”

Marissa smiled that gorgeous smile that always took Eric’s breath away, “Well love, I will give it my best effort. Oh and Eric”.

He turned and looked back at her

“Thank you for understanding and for sharing the responsibility, you really are an amazing man.”

He hugged her, kissed her and led her into the bedroom. Neither one had any difficulty providing care for the other.

Purple Angel

Thursday, January 3, 2008

Sensual Spanking-This Side of Me


This Side of Me

How well you know this side of me
That shivers at a single touch
Drifting fingers down my spine
Rubbing and kneading anxious flesh

You know the way to make me gasp
With unabandoned pleasure and joy
Softly you pat and rub my skin
You whisper words that make me sigh

How well you know just when to change
The speed and the intensity
You make my body sing and move
Our dance begins as our eyes meet

And then I feel the sting, the slaps
That fall like rain upon my tender flesh
You touch the very secret part of me
Only you know how to caress

I feel the heat upon my skin
The racing thoughts throughout my mind
And I am absolutely sure that you
Know the absolute time to kiss and rub reddened skin

Each time we perform our perfect dance
We give such pleasure to each other
Sometimes my hand, sometimes yours control
The sounds, the feelings, what we see.

I can’t imagine not wanting this as a treasure
The pain and pleasure intertwined awakening senses
Pulling us closer, Melting us into one
Reddened flesh, tingling, glowing, the gift we give each other

Purple Angel 2008