Submissive Switch

My life has taken an interesting turn. I am in a relationship with a very submissive man. I have many choices to make regarding this situation. First of all I am a submissive switch. I have been told that it is confusing but I am not confused at all.

I enjoy giving others what they need, that is part of my submissive nature. So switching has become part of the life I lead. I know its not for everyone but it does work for me. The one gentleman I am seeing is extremely submissive. Now please don't think this means weak or wimpy. Those in the lifestyle know it means no such thing. He is a strong and intelligent man. But he is a submissive. We are going to discuss whether or not we can meet each other's needs and if a relationship is possible.

You might wonder why I am even considering this. I don't like discounting anyone in my life for reasons that might be worked out. If I had done this I would not have many of the friends that I now love. He has been loyal and caring for over a year now, waiting for "his lady" to be ready to give this a try. I believe that even if we don't work it out we will be great friends and that is worth a great deal.

Switching has come to mean more to me than spanking, it embraces power exchange, he understands that as well. It is what he needs in his life, and I need it in mine. The area of D/s is one that hold many definitions. Being a submissive does not equate with slavery in my mind but it does in many others. Is anyone right or wrong? I don't think so, it is a matter or respecting each person's right to define their journey.

I love being spanked, I love having a man that watches out for me in a caring and protective way. But I also have to have my wings to fly. Micro management is not for me. But I am obedient to those that love me and I always will be. Such is the nature of my committment.

So weigh in with your opinion. Do you think switching is just a way of not committing to one specific role? Or is it a way that some of us are wired, to enjoy this amazing lifestyle in all its complexity. I don't think there is one right answer but I would love to hear all kinds of opinions

Welcome to My World

Well, my world, as it exists right now, has been around for only a few of my 55 years. It has always been there in my mind, longing to be part of me, but I just assumed it was too weird to ever share with anyone. The internet taught me otherwise.

So I am happy to share my spanko feelings and experiences, thoughts, and writings with anyone who might be interested.

First of all I believe that no two spankos are created equal. We are all individuals with differiing needs and desires. My desire for different types of spankings may not match your belief in discipline only or play only. No problem here, feel free to comment, just don't put me down for not having the same mind set as you, and I promise the same courtesy.

In my world I am accountable to two men via long distance. One is the love of my life and the other is the uncle or older brother I never had but certainly wished for. Both have the authority to spank me for whatever they deem necessary or enjoyable. Yes, this does involve a great deal of trust.

Now I also have authority to spank the man I love as well. So, yes, I am a switch but one with a strong submissive streak. Maybe this seems like a contradiction but it works for me. I consider it a sacred trust and always treat him with love and care.

Next question? Long distance? I know its not what I eventually hope for but I do see them in real life from time to time. And otherwise I am directed to self spank (I am not allowed to do this without direction). Other punishments can be used but I will talk about that at another time.

The biggest revelation of all is that I love being spanked, I need to be spanked, and I desire it even when my behavior is excellent!

So to start off, this morning my behavior was not excellent. I had not told my big brother something that had occured to me two days ago. Just hadn't done it, and that my friends is a lie of omission. So I spent part of this morning nursing a sore bottom. No complaints, I deserved it and even if I didn't think so I really never complain.

So welcome to Spankful Delight, looking forward to meeting you.