For My Neighbors to the North

Have a wonderful Canada Day! Hope the fireworks are not just in the sky but also much closer to home.

Hugs,
Purple Angel

Spanking Survey

Thanks Bonnie for posting this at Bottom Smarts. It was fun to take and although a bit repetitive, asked interesting questions.

spanking survey
Have you ever gotten spanked?:	Yes but not nearly enough
Do you like to be spanked?:	I love to be spanked
Are you bad?:	No but I am frequently naughty
Are you spanked over you pants or pants and undies pulled down?:	Bare bottom is the only way to go
What is your favorite thing about spanking?:	Hmm can't think of any part that is not great
Do you get spanked hard?:	Yes, very hard
What position are you in when getting spanked?:	Usually otk, sometimes over pillows
What do you like to be spanked with?:	A bare hand is great but so are implements
Do you all get spanked?:	Yes I am a switch and spank back
Who spanks you?:	The man I love, my older brother and others for play
How long does the spanking last?:	Depends on the situation.
When is the last time you got spanked?:	Oh lets' see, about a week ago
Do you spank yourself?:	When I am told to
Do you have a spanking fetish?:	I prefer to think of it as my lifestyle
After your spanking is over do you still act bratty later on?:	Well I can be a smart ass whether spanked or not
How hard do you get spanked?:	Very hard and this is redundent
Have you ever gotten your butt belted?:	You bet I have
Have you ever gotten your butt paddled?:	Yes indeed
Have you ever gotten spanked in public?:	No but I am working on it
What do you get spanked with the most?:	Bare hand and wooden paddle
On a scale of 1-10 how much does the spanking hurt?:	Depends on who and the situation
Do you feel you deserve it?:	Yes I do
What do you get spanked for?:	Just Because, erotic/sensual play, fun, discipline, therapy
How many times have you gotten spanked?:	I have no idea
How many times the spanker spank you during the spanking?:	Depends on the spanker and the circumstances
What do you do to deserve them?:	The only ones I get where I deserve them are usually due to not being the best I can.
Have you ever gotten spanked infront your friends?:	Yes I have
Have you ever gotten you butt caned?:	Absolutely
Do you like the pain of the spanking?:	I like the sting and the tingle
Have you ever gotten spanked with a wooden spoon?:	Of course
Have you ever gotten spanked with a hairbrush?:	Very frequently
Have you ever asked to be spanked for something you did wrong?:	Yes I have
Is spanking a big part of your everyday life?:	It is
Do you get spanked more than once a day?:	Sometimes if I am lucky
How often do you get spanked?:	Depends on where I am and the person I am with
Is your butt red and sore afterwards?:	Well duh...of course
Do you spanked gently or hard?:	Both
Have you ever gotten spanked with a sneaker?:	No, but that sounds interesting
Do you believe in spanking?:	Yes I do, quite seriously for many reasons
Have you ever been spanked so hard that you started to cry?:	Yes, many times
Whate age Do you stated getting spanked?:	52
Do you still a get spanked?:	Oh yes
Do you think that spanking is a good punishment?:	For adults, absolutely
Have you ever gotten spanked for swearing?:	No but I don't really swear much
Do you think spanking is fun?:	It is the most fun you can have sober
What does the spanker say to you before your spanking?:	If it is for correction I get a lecture that usually starts with young lady
Have you ever gotten spanked for getting bad grades?:	Yes, but it was a retroactive spanking
Have you ever gotten a spanking for no reason at all?:	The best reason is Just Because
Have you ever gotten spanked by a teacher?:	In third grade I got a birthday spanking
Is your butt spankable?:	I like to think so
Who spanks you the most?:	The love of my life and my older brother
Is spanking your hobbie?:	its part of my lifestyle
Do you want a spanking right now?:	Yes indeed
Do you get lectured during the spanking?:	If it is called for I do
Have you ever gotten spanked with your butt in the air?:	Yes many times
Have you ever gotten spanked so hard you butt was swollen?:	Absolutely
Have you ever watched someone else you know getting spanked?:	Many times
Do you hate spankings?:	Nope I love them
Have you ever spanked someone:	Yes I have
Did they learn their lesson?:	If their was a lesson to be learned they do
How many people spank you?:	Only two on a regular basis
Is spanking allowed in your family?:	I did not spank my child and I don't ever include minors in any spanking discussion
Have you ever been spanked with more than one spanking instrument?:	Yes I have lots of toys
Have you ever gotten spanked for lying?:	No because I don't lie
Have you ever gotten spanked for cursing?:	Hey I already said no
Take this survey Find more surveys Bzoink - The Original Survey Site

Can't "Beat Em" Brownies

I made these wonderful brownies for the party at GC's house. They are unbelievably rich and chocolatey. The perfect energy source for the kind of appetite you build up when spanking. It may not be a rule that you must have chocolate at a spanking party, but it should be. Anyone on ToddnSuzy's diet group, stop reading this post right now. I don't want to be responsible for you backsides if you continue!!

Enjoy,
Purple Angel
Can’t “Beat Em” Brownies

Ingredients:

2 sticks unsalted butter melted with 8 oz bittersweet chocolate (no more than 65% cacoa) in a 3 quart heavy saucepan over low heat.

2 cups sugar
1 t vanilla extract
5 large eggs
2/3 cup all purpose unbleached flour
1/3 cup Dutch process unsweetened cocoa
½ t salt

Preheat oven to 350. Butter and flour a 13x9 pan.
Whisk together the dry ingredients; flour, cocoa and salt.

After melted chocolate mixture cools to lukewarm, whisk in the sugar and vanilla. Whisk in one egg at a time until mixture is glossy and smooth.

Whisk the dry ingredients into the chocolate mixture until combined. Spread in the prepared pan. Bake about 30 minutes until a toothpick or tester comes out of the middle with crumbs on it.

IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: One of the brownie consumers was quite dismayed to find no walnuts in the recipe (and he knows who he is WEG. You may add walnuts at your own risk. I make no promise about the result. I, on the other hand, shall continue making……….nutless J brownies!

Inspiration

I posted this wonderful picture by Barb as the home page picture for my Yahoo group. It really inspired a number of people to come up with ideas of what was going on here. Now you should know that the picture is titled "garage sale". Some thought the young man got caught stealing, others thought she was doing a demo of her merchandise, and one really cool idea was that it was a spanking booth(like a kissing booth).

However, my crazy little muse inspired me in a different direction. It is a very short little story but I thought I would share it with all of you. In fact I already have ideas for a second part. As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words.

So many good ideas from this picture. Actually I think the man is holding the garage sale at his grandparent's home. Many of the items are antiques but he is not aware or interested in their value. He simply wants to make some quick cash and since his grandparents dote on him, they have agreed.

The day has gone very well, lots of interested buyers who could not believe the bargains they were getting. There were many questions about authenticity which he could honestly answer. Everything was the real deal. As he gazes around his selfish brain begins to figure out how much he will be pulling in since his grandparents want to give him the money for being kind enough to help out.

As he looks over the crowd he notices a newcomer. She is dressed strangely for an afternoon of garage sales. Her black suit appears to be silk and is quite stylish. As he watches her she stops by the gorgeous oak table and begins looking at his grandmother's hairbrushes. He can remember seeing his grandmother brushing her hair many years ago with one of the brushes. He also remembers some of the uses his mother had for those brushes and they had nothing to do with hair styles.

She picks up each brush and looks them over carefully. Although she never smiles he senses they are just what she has been looking for. This is somewhat a mystery since she has very short hair. But then again some people buy these just to collect them. He shrugs his shoulders, who cares why she likes them as long as she buys them.

The woman turns and looks around the crowd obviously trying to figure out who is in charge of the sale. He steps forward and asks if she needs help. She gestures towards the brushes and asks the price. He quotes an astoundingly low price. Instead of a look of delight she frowns. The next question is unexpected. She wants to know if he has stolen them.

"Hell no", he exclaims. I am holding this sale for my grandparents. Every item is theirs and has been in our family for years."

She gives him a cool, appraising look, "Then why are they so inexpensive, I know their value. I am a collector."

He lets out a laugh, "Why would you collect hairbrushes, you have very little hair."

Her voice continues to remain even and soft with an air of authority. "I don't brush hair with them. They have a much more interesting use for me. And as a matter of fact it is one you could benefit from. I wonder if your grandparents would be interested in how much money they could have made from a grandson thinking more of them than himself."

He was both ashamed and angry. Rather than admit he might be wrong he became very defensive. "What are you...psychic or something? And do you want the brushes or not.?

She looked him over with her cool stare. "Before I buy them I would like to try them out. After all, as a collector I know what I want. Are you agreeable to those terms?"

Despite a gut feeling that he was missing some important piece of information he shrugs, "Sure brush your hair, whatever."

She picks up a brush, looks it over, and beckons him over with her index finger. "Finally", he thinks. "Now maybe this strange woman will leave." He walks over, "This the one you want?" His voice is anything but courteous.

Taking the brush with her she sits down in one of the dining room chairs behind the beautiful painted screen that used to grace his grandparent's living room. He follows her over hoping that maybe she wants to buy the dining room table and chairs. When he is close enough she grabs the buckle of his belt and pulls him closer. As she opens the buckle he tries to back away but she is far stronger than she appears. "Hey what the hell are you doing."

She replies as she unzips his jeans, "I am trying out this hairbrush. After all you gave me permission to do so." His mouth hangs open as he begins to realize what kind of try out she is planning. Visions of his mother and her wicked hairbrush suddenly fill his mind.

Before he knows what has happened the woman has given a yank on his unzipped jeans pulling him off balance. He lands on her lap and feels her grab the waistband of his jeans and underwear. With one quick, easy movement they are down around his knees. She quickly locks his legs between hers. He gasps in shock and begins to try and pull free with no success.

The woman's cool voice is all he hears, "This is what I do with hairbrushes, especially on young men that care nothing for anyone but themselves and their selfish desires." Before he can answer she brings the hairbrush down sharply on his left cheek, then his right.

His loud protests from behind the screen bring several people there to see what is going on. From his vantage point he can't see anyone but he can hear female laughter. However, as the hairbrush keeps landing he thinks less and less about being seen and more and more concerned with the fire being built on his bottom.

As suddenly as it began it is over. The woman tugs his jeans back up before letting him stand. He gets up off her lap and hurriedly fastens his pants. Although he knows he should be angry at such inappropriate treatment from a stranger, he isn't. Instead he feels a strange emotional response. The woman looks up from the chair. "I will take all three hairbrushes and I will pay you what they are worth. Plus I expect you to reprice what is left. Then you can take a percentage for your help and give your grandparents the rest. Is that clearly understood?"

He gulped hard and couldn't believe the next words out of his mouth, "Yes Ma'am."

Without a smile she gave him the money for the three brushes and began to walk away with her prize collector's items in her purse. She turned around briefly, "I will be back to check." And then she was gone.

He was dumbfounded and totally confused by the situation. But he also believed her and started to turn towards the garage to remark items. And then he saw the female shoppers in the garage all looking at him with knowing smiles. He must have been quite a show. And as this thought flitted through his brain, it must have communicated itself to the shoppers.

The next sound he heard was every woman in the garage and outside it, clapping loudly and enthusiastically.

He blushed bright red and felt the sting in his bottom as his jeans rubbed while he walked. As he repriced items he found himself wondering....would she really come back to check.........in a way.........crazy as it was..........he hoped she would.

The Comforts of Home

I totally enjoyed my first house party at GC's house this past weekend. It was completely different than a party at a hotel. Plus I got to meet some wonderful new friends.

Some of the differences were predictable but some were a surprise. When I questioned the food we would need to provide, I found out everyone brings food and GC provided the soft drinks. Hmm a pot luck spanking party, who would have imagine it. So I happily baked brownies as my contribution. I will post the recipe which shall now be known as Can't Beat Em Brownies.

So there were people there from the DC group, Louisville, Kentucky, New York and one person from Illinois(me!). We had options for private play and public play. GC's house is a perfect party house. You could hear the happy sounds of smacking everywhere.

I really did love it. And not only was the spanking fun, but it was so much fun sitting and talking with new and old friends. We had breakfast with some of the party goers on Sunday morning. Everyone agreed that it was a superb party.

So here are some of the things I liked;

Lots of comfy couches for spanking, three private rooms for spanking with sign up sheets, a lovely deck to sit out and watch the sunset, many new people to meet in a comfortable setting, one room just for sitting and talking with friends, and lots of yummy food!

So I got spanked first and last by GC, in between I was spanked by my older brother. I spanked three gentlemen who were switch/bottoms. One of them was kind enough to return the favor.

So if you have the opportunity please do attend a house party. They are more intimate and offer more chances to both spank and talk with new friends and those you already know and love.

A Literary Experience

I had a very interesting experience the other evening. Currently I am visiting GC and we went to a book club discussion group he attends once a month. Now there is nothing new about the concept of book discussions but this one was new for me. It was a discussion group that reads and shares spanking books.



When I got off the plane on Tuesday night it was really too late to start reading but the next morning I began reading the book of short spanking stories titled, Blushing at Both Ends. We spent much of the day dashing from place to place and I read in between the various errands we ran. Finally I got a chance to do some uninterrupted reading while GC attended an event. I sat at Starbucks with some lovely tea with lemonade and read the book. (Cover down of course, didn't want any knowing grins from the staff or other patrons.) Some of the stories were very cute. My favorite was Snow White and Rose Red. However, I did find it to be a group of formulaic stories, right down to the language in each one and the words the characters uttered. I think many times, in spanking literature there is an assumption that the reader is only breathlessly waiting for the first smack of hand on derriere. That is -probably true to an extent, but it would be nice to know the characters, have a less predictable plot, and have the spanking activities be part of the action, but not the entire focus of the story.



In any case, we did arrive late for the group but hey were still talking over the stories. One of the group members said he actually liked the idea of template into which various story scenarios could all fit. We did discuss which stories each person liked the best.

I really do wish they had a group like this where I live but I really don't know any spankos in close proximity except one, and I wouldn't contact him if he were the last man on earth. Enough said on that subject for now. But I do think it would be fun to "discuss" books online, so I may, in the future, start recommending books I have read and that you may like to read. I would love to hear what others think about the books I have enjoyed or not enjoyed . And if you have a group of friends in the scene, give this a try. The group meets at a restaurant so they share good food and discussion.

If you do read Blushing at Both Ends let me know what you think. Since I am often blushing hither and yon myself I know how many of the characters feel. Since I switch I know how even other characters feel. And, as many of us know, it is a remarkable feeling indeed!

Self defining

I posted a poll on the blog about how you define yourself in the spanking lifestyle. In my opinion this is an area people really get stuck on. I know it has tripped me up in the past. And once you get labeled it is really tough to get that sticker off.

When I first opened my eyes and mind to the possibility that I could have what I always wanted, I had no idea of what the options were for a woman in the world of spanking. So I believed what I first learned, that I was a bottom. Since I also have a submissive side, it made sense to me that I was a submissive bottom. Therefore it followed that I would be looking for a relationship with a Dominant top. It never occured to me that there were many options available.

My good fortune was that the first real spanking was from a top who also liked being spanked as well. I wouldn't really call him a switch but he did teach me how to play on both sides of the lap. As my experiences grew I met men who were actually bottoms and wondered if I would spank them. My first response was an internal one. How could I spank someone for correction when I was a bottom? But another part of me empathized so much with someone who needed and wanted a real spanking. I knew that longing and how it felt to not have anyone to provide it. Plus I am a pretty good actress in a community theatre kind of way, and thought I could play the role. So my life as a switch began.

Now I was a bottom, submissive, and a switch. Three labels that seemed somewhat contradictory. At this time my spankings, both giving and taking, had all been with men. It never entered my mind that I would spank or be spanked by women.

As my spanko experiences evolved and I met more people I began to realize that we are all wired in unique ways. I learned from many, especially my older brother, friends I made at parties, and my sweet GC. My experiences have become incredibly varied. I have disciplined my honorary "niece" when she needs it, both in person and on the phone. Having this part in her life only increases how close I feel to her. Playing with my wonderful friends Cheryl and Cigi was strictly a girl's sleep over fun spanking activity. And I love them both as well, they are the best.

GC and I both switch and are learning all the time how to please each other. I find this part of my spanking education pure pleasure. He is a wonderful spanker, and it is obvious we both find pleasure in pleasing each other. I expect to continue being an attentive student.

Oh and the parties I have played at are an education all in and of themself. All the implements I thought I would never try and have now tried and enjoyed were mostly through party experiences. I love leather, wood, and yes, even lexan if it is used for play. Being caned by someone that knew exactly what he was doing was an eye opener in more ways than one.

So I have evolved from a submissive bottom to a bottom switch with a submissive streak and the ability to be a dommy mommy when the situtation calls for it (disclaimer:my older brother came up with that term and it never fails to get a laugh). The only thing I simply cannot do is be mean, harsh, or degrading to another person. If that is what they want they have to find another girl.

As a teacher I never did like labeling children, as a spanko I don't know that we need all the labels except at a party so you know who you might want to play with. But even there it takes time to get to know the person and find out if your needs and desires match up.

So how do you feel about labels and defining yourself in this wonderful and unique way of life?

Ticked Off!!

I couldn't believe it today when I came to my blog and found my counter was gone. Every time you clicked on "counter not found" you were redirected to a casino site. Yes, I suddenly was running a gambling game without even knowing it. And what really was aggravating was the fact that I lost the exact number of hits I have had. I knew it was over fifty thousand but not positive of the exact number.

In any case I set up a new counter and hopefully no one will steal it away when I am not looking. There is also a poll at the bottom of my blog about how you define yourself in this lifestyle. I hope you will take a moment to vote and if you would be interested I would certainly appreciate comments on this topic. For me it is far more important to define who I am than why I am wired this way.

Whoever stole my counter better not show up anytime soon or they will meet my lexan paddle in person. Ah yes, sometimes it is good to be a switch.

Now Who do They Think They Are Fooling?

Well I had to share one of my vacation souvenirs. GC and I found this in a shop in Florida while buying a canvas bag to tote "stuff" to the beach.(Never mind that I have more canvas bags at home than I can count and didn't pack a single one).

Yes, ours says bald man's hairbrush too. Really now, isn't this just the perfect size for a purse or pocket paddle? And it has a nice sting to it as well. Does anyone really believe it is meant for bald men? Well, I will concede for bald men who enjoy spanking or being spanked it is perfect.

I am always amazed at the places you can find unintentional spanking toys. We all know kitchen supply departments or stores are loaded with them. Hardware stores have a variety of wonderful multi use objects. And wooden hairbrushes can be found at almost any department or large drug store. Of course we all know about the famous Vermont bath brush that "hits the spot". And boy is that the truth!

But does anyone really think there is any other use for this small paddle shaped object than a wonderful, easy to transport, spank you right here implement? No one could possibly be that naive....could they?

How I Spent My Summer Vacation!

I got home on Monday from the wonderful Florida Moonshine party in Tampa Bay. First of all they did a terrific job of organizing a HUGE party. There were more than 150 people there. It was a bit overwhelming I must admit, but I was there with my wonderful GC and it was a romantic and lovely few days with him. So why was it so great? Here are a few reasons.

1. Terrific people-There were friends there from Crimson Moon that I already knew. I met Todd and Suzy from American Spanking Society. They are two of the nicest people I have ever met. My only regret is we did not get to spend more time with them. I met two spanking celebrities; Sierra Salem and Niki Flynn. Sierra was as sweet as she is lovely. She was so excited to know we had seen her DVDs. I assured her that most people in the scene had viewed one or more of her performances. Niki Flynn was signing her book, Dances With Werewolves. She was also incredibly nice and willing to talk and discuss both writing and spanking. I highly recommend her book, she is a talented writer.

Along with celebrities I also met many Florida Moonshine members. One of them had posted a tag I made about a huge bonfire for wooden spoons, all over the hospitality suite. How I managed to get away without being spanked for that I will never know. They were all very welcoming and seemed pleased that so many members from out of state and country had come to the party.

2. The vendor fair was a riot!! The best part was that GC tried out any implement that caught my eye or his. That is what I call a quality shopping experience. We definitly need spanko strip malls. The vendors were terrific and some of the craftsmanship was outstanding. They were more than willing to have their products tried out by anyone so inclined. So I found myself bending over a number of vendor tables. You could hear smacks all around the room and lots of laughter as well.

3. The ice breaker Friday night was also loads of fun. We had lists of people we had to find. For example; someone who was left handed, someone wearing a red shirt etc. If you found a person to match what you were looking for they signed off on it and got to give you five spanks. That is definitely an ice breaker, what ice could stay solid with all those nice warm bottoms around.

4. I also enjoyed the Spanking Trivia game on Saturday night. Once again if you got the wrong answer you got a certain number of spanks with hand or implement depending on which round it was. Everyone had a great time and I was delighted to find out I knew more than I thought I did. GC knew a great deal more than I did, very impressive.

5. The resort was great! I have to tell you one of the happiest people there was the bartender in the ballroom Saturday night during Spanking Trivia. He had an ear to ear grin the entire time.

6. Aside from the party which was wonderful, GC and I had some very lovely quality time together in a beautiful setting. We took walks on the beach, both in daylight and by starlight. The gulf was warm and lovely with turquoise water and sugary sand. We also visited other areas that he wanted to show me. One of the most wonderful parts of the trip was also visiting my dad who lives down in Florida near Orlando.

7. One sore spot, no not my backside, is that we didn't get to spank on the beach at night. There were always people around, even late at night. So I still have not gotten that outdoor spanking, I guess my fantasies will have to do for the time being.

The pictures I put at the beginning are the entrance to the resort and an example of a Tampa Bay sunset. I only wish the bikini clad sun bather with the sunburned bottom was me. But my bottom got plenty of lovely coloring during the weekend. Unfortunately it has faded, but fortunately I will winging my way to GC's house next Tuesday. So my bottom won't stay white for long.

In any case, I did have a lovely time, met wonderful people, ate delicious food, enjoyed the beach, saw new places, got spanked, and spent four days with my love. Yes, definitely a summer vacation well spent.

Into the Night

Into the Night
Baby hold me close and tight,
Don't let go,
Let your hand prove you care,
Don't let go,
As you turn my skin to pink,
Don't let go,
I need you there to keep me safe,
Don't let go,
Caress then rub, spank again,
Don't let go,
Our connection cannot be denied,
Just don't let go,
Take us into the night.
Purple Angel

New Experiences

As you can see I am in a beach frame of mind. That is because on Thursday I am leaving for the Florida Moonshine party with my darling GC. Now isn't interesting that both women in these pictures are wearing red bathing suits. Certainly the color of choice for any spanker, it gives them a color to match. And I don't know what the blonde is complaining about, looks like fun to me. Personally I would rather be wearing the suit in the first picture. It covers a multitude of bulges I would just as soon not display.

Warm weather, beaches, palm trees, and the ocean...what a great setting. And how wonderful to get spanked not only in a different state but a whole different climate. Obviously my experiences are broadening my horizons. And a party with a new group is such a great way to meet like minded people.

I also must tell you something I did that I never thought I would and it has nothing to do with Florida. I told my younger brother and sister about my delightfully kinky inclinations. They kept asking why I was coming to all these meetings in Chicago but not visiting them. I gave my brother the website for Crimson Moon and told him to read it and let me know if he had any questions. My sister wheedled it out of me. Bless both of them, they were not upset, judgemental, or shocked. So I am sticking one toe out of the closet and it felt very good to know that they love me no matter what I choose to do with my backside or my open palm.

Now back to the Florida party. I found that my bathing suit was way too big and the bottom part fell off when I tried it on. Yes, that is a good problem to have. So I bought a new one. And I made sure it was a suit that I could get spanked while wearing. Very easy to pull up the leg openings for bare bottom beach spankings. Now I bet you can't guess what color it is. Go ahead and try, I'll wait.........................................................................How did you know that? Yes, you are correct, it is red. Actually it is red and black but the red is a lovely crimson color and I just know it would be a great color to try and match. So my toys and I are flying south and meeting my love at the Tampa airport. I probably won't do much blogging while I am there. Its really hard to type when you are over someone's lap. But I most certainly share my experiences when I return. Oh and I will be sure to let you know if anyone can match the color of my very red bathing suit!

Spankful Delight