Spanking Parties? Love em or Leave em part 1

This November I am hosting my sixth spanking party. The party has grown from about 15 people to around 35 or more. It is a weekend party held at a suburban Chicago hotel. My inspiration to embark on this wild and crazy journey was the fun I had and the people I met at my first Chicago Crimson Moon party. And I have never been sorry I jumped from that frying pan into my own fire!

Spanking parties have become a part of my social scene life. Spanking and impact play was the very first kink I explored (but certainly not the last). It is my most beloved fetish and the one I fantasized about throughout my life. Its no wonder then that it seems to need the bigger than life atmosphere of a party.

For those of you that haven't had the pleasure, a few highlights. You arrive, somewhat breathless, at the party hotel. Breathless? Sure! You ran ahead of the car, flew ahead of the plane, and jogged faster than the train to get to the unique event that would occupy you totally. If you have been to a previous party or participate in groups on fetlife, spankolife, or Yahoo, you probably can't wait to greet friends you haven't seen in awhile and meet new people that you only know online or from phone conversations.

Now let''s stand back and view the scene for a moment. Adults hugging and kissing, shaking hands, smiling, outbursts of laughter, and overheard snatches of conversation. "How are your kids doing", "is your mom feeling better", "did the move go smoothly" and you might think, family reunion. In a way you are right. It feels very much like family, the time seems to melt away and relationships pick up right where they left off.

As soon as you have promised about a million (smile) people a spot on your dance card, you escape to your hotel room to rest and refresh for the marathon is about to begin.

These weekend parties are, indeed, marathon spanking events. In fact I believe carb loading before you arrive might not be a bad idea. You will need every ounce of energy you can muster. There will early morning breakfasts, late late night "appointments", group events and meals, and inbetween all that, many delicious hours of spanking delights. Different positions, implements galore, party room spankings, and private room spankings...it stretches out in front of you in all its tantalizing and delicious delight. If you are a top you can't wait to see the panties come down baring the first bottom to wiggle in anticipation of your attention. If you are a bottom, you are delighting in the knowledge that you will go to bed much much later with a fantastic aching tingle that your hand just can't seem to stop rubbing. And oh if you are a switch, you happily contemplate both.

More tomorrow as we continue vicariously feeling it all. I am quite fortunate, in four weeks it won't be vicarious, I will be in the thick of my next party experience!

Unveiling my Blog or I will Lurk no More

Since today is Love our Lurkers day I decided to unveil my blog once again. It seems that this past year I have been my own best lurker! I am going to make, yet another, concerted effort to get my blog back on track and lurk no more!

The unfortunate reason for being a lurker (tightening the belt of my black trenchcoat) has been illness along with a startling number of depressing events in my life. I am not going into these since they are just that...depressing. However, I do reserve the right to use these for future blog fodder. And while life is not back to any semblance of normal, I love writing and I loved having this blog.

To remind you of who I am and for any first timers that drop by, I use the name Purple Angel and I am a spanko. At this point in my life I have learned, experienced, and evolved into a submissive spanko. I really don't switch anymore unless it is someone with whom I have a continuing connection. It has also become clear to me that I am a bit of a masochist. That was very difficult for me to accept but I have come to understand that it is not a negative concept. And I am very curious, love trying out new experiences.

I enjoy being active in the lifestyle community and I write spanking as well as BDSM stories. You can find many of my golden oldies right here, on Spankful Delight. I host spanking parties in the Chicago area and run a Yahoo group known as Our Need and Desire. If you would like more party info just let me know!

So a fresh start, and I hope you will not be a stranger. I will also make it a priority not to be a stranger on my own blog. What a crazy idea! But if you must lurk and not comment, I do hope you enjoy what you read. After all, bloggers often do this as an appropriate way to seek attention, there is no point in writing if you have no readers. Just my opinion....

Hope you enjoyed my newest unveiling and I look forward to sharing with you i the future!

You Scored as Submissive (((Note: This quiz is not totally comprehensive because of the length such a quiz would be. I kept it sex-based because I felt that psychological profiles and motivations were too complicated and vary too greatly among people that practice BDSM.))) It feels good to serve. A lack of control in the bedroom can be fun and relaxing. Being with a dominant person wouldn't be a bad idea. Submissive 86% Experimental 82% Masochist 75% Switch 61% Bondage 61% Sadist 46% Exhibitionist / Voyeur 39% Degradation Lover 39% Vanilla 18% Dominant 11%

Party and Toy Review

Well the spring Our Need and Desire party is now a lovely memory. It was a blast and we are beginning to plan our November party already. As you may guess I am still trying to get back in the swing of things, I am doing so much better but find it hard to keep up.

The party was our largest yet and we had spankos from Illinois, Indiana, Wisconsin, Ohio, New York, Virginia, Maryland, Utah, and California. If I forgot a state you can spank me in the fall!! It was a time of socializing, spanking, food, fun, and a chance to be there for two very good friends in need.

First of all I must thanks CANE-IACS for their continued support of our parties. Not only are they kind, but they support those in the lifestyle. In this post I will tell you about their naughty sticks. They are AWESOME! The naughty stick prize was highly coveted and everyone that either felt or wielded one could not believe what a great implement it was. First of all it is fairly light and easy to handle. It can be used for play or serious misdemeanors. The length of it means you can cover both cheeks at the same time. No back and forth, just forth! It is also very good for serious sit spot coverage.

I love the cute sayings and you can order one that you design yourself. The price is right and it is a great addition to any toybag. I highly recommend this, and loved how it felt when being spanked. Wonderful, tingly sting!!

Party Time

I can hardly wait!! This Friday, May 21st is the Our Need and Desire spring spanking party and I know we are going to have a great time. For those who have not read my blog, my Yahoo group has two parties a year. One is in November and the other is in May. Its wonderful to see all my friends, socialize, and spank the weekend away.

This time we are having a spanking castle theme for Saturday night, with appropriate contests and games for all the Lords and Ladies of the realm. Our parties would not be as much fun without the generous sponsorship by lifestyle vendors. This time around we are being helped by Paddles and Panties, a new site that is just getting off the ground. And our returning friends at Cane-iacs have been incredibly generous. There is a link to Cane-iacs on this blog and I urge you to click and check them out. They have wonderful implements, books, and some truly entertaining "stuff" that is just for fun. Well, actually it is all for fun, hot spanking fun.

The two items pictured are from Cane-iacs and after the party I will be posting reviews of their merchandise. So stay tuned!

Submissive Switch

My life has taken an interesting turn. I am in a relationship with a very submissive man. I have many choices to make regarding this situation. First of all I am a submissive switch. I have been told that it is confusing but I am not confused at all.

I enjoy giving others what they need, that is part of my submissive nature. So switching has become part of the life I lead. I know its not for everyone but it does work for me. The one gentleman I am seeing is extremely submissive. Now please don't think this means weak or wimpy. Those in the lifestyle know it means no such thing. He is a strong and intelligent man. But he is a submissive. We are going to discuss whether or not we can meet each other's needs and if a relationship is possible.

You might wonder why I am even considering this. I don't like discounting anyone in my life for reasons that might be worked out. If I had done this I would not have many of the friends that I now love. He has been loyal and caring for over a year now, waiting for "his lady" to be ready to give this a try. I believe that even if we don't work it out we will be great friends and that is worth a great deal.

Switching has come to mean more to me than spanking, it embraces power exchange, he understands that as well. It is what he needs in his life, and I need it in mine. The area of D/s is one that hold many definitions. Being a submissive does not equate with slavery in my mind but it does in many others. Is anyone right or wrong? I don't think so, it is a matter or respecting each person's right to define their journey.

I love being spanked, I love having a man that watches out for me in a caring and protective way. But I also have to have my wings to fly. Micro management is not for me. But I am obedient to those that love me and I always will be. Such is the nature of my committment.

So weigh in with your opinion. Do you think switching is just a way of not committing to one specific role? Or is it a way that some of us are wired, to enjoy this amazing lifestyle in all its complexity. I don't think there is one right answer but I would love to hear all kinds of opinions

Question of the Week-Is spanking becoming more acceptable?

Ok now for all you spankers and switches, is this an appropriate target? Just kidding around, that is not what I am asking. I found this picture and it was labeled spanking. I suppose her bottom is redder than a usual bottom but I was curious about this. Is our lifestyle becoming more acceptable in society? This is simply a question and really not hoping that it is or is not. It just seems to me that there is more erotic literature appearing in mainstream bookstores that features both spanking and other aspects of bdsm. Lots of these novels feature D/s relationships and have a huge following.

One of the authors I read is Joey W. Hill. She is a pretty good writer and also seems very knowledgeable about spanking, domination, and submission. She has a website and a Yahoo group that I belong to.

This is just one example of a wider mainstream acceptance that seems to be happening. So do weigh in with your opinion. Are we getting our toes out of the closet or are we still in there except with those who are like minded? And do we really want the vanilla world mixed in the spanking world? I look forward to reading what you have to say.

A Word to All Those That Rudely Take Advantage

My evil Purple Angel twin is writing this blog. This is addressed to those of you that took advantage of my illness and absence, and tried to post comments that went from the sublime to the totally ridiculous. What is more amazing is that you never even noticed your comments never saw the light of day, since I moderated all comments.

So to all you spammers, KNOCK IT OFF! I am not posting what you write, you are wasting your time and my time. To those of you that don't write in English but only in oriental languages, I don't post anything I can't read. I moderate comments because I don't want the readers of my blog to be bored or offended by this type of nonsense.

If you feel you need to waste your time so be it. I will continue to reject your comments. And I am back blogging so get over this need you have to fill up my comment moderation section with garbage.

To those of you that are the real readers and commentators, I apologize but I had to say it and get it off my mind.

The evil twin is done, well at least for now.

My future looks bright..hopefully, bright red!

So I am finally settled in the newest place I have moved to, and it seems to be an excellent transition. Time to take a deep breath and move forward. One part of moving forward is the unexpected relationship that is developing with a terrific man. Yes, that has been something I know I have shared with you before, but I am no quitter and he seems to be the real deal. Well at least the deal I have been int4erested in finding.

He is a gentle, caring Dom who understands my feelings abut a Domestic Discipline partnership. We have talked, emailed, and yes, we have met. Each meeting draws us closer together, its quite wonderful. Oh and he does understand the absolute need for lots of fun and Just Because spankings. If these components were not there it would certainly be a deal breaker. I could not at this point in my life, consider a vanilla relationship. It would be dishonest and unfair to me and the man involved.

So I will see him next week and (holding my breath) I do believe I will get spanked...yes I said spanked. Oh and how I need that spanking.

If you tune in for the next post or soon thereafter I will share developments in this fantastic turn around in my life that was totally unexpected! Will she get spanked? Will she have that red bottom that seems so unobtainable? Like the lady in the picture, I will most certainly have a big (wicked) grin on my face if my fairytale comes true. Keep your fingers crossed!

Yes, angels return

I couldn't believe how long it has been since I blogged. My wings were well and truly clipped by a stroke..well actually two of them. It has taken quite awhile to get to the point where my eyes, fingers, and endurance can handle working on the computer. Believe me I have missed this very much.

The wonderful part of having something horrible happen is finding out how many people truly love and care about you. In fact, if nothing ever happened of much consequence I don't know how to find this out except for intuition. I am going to share some of my story, this is a warning you know. If you aren't interested now is the time to find that other blog you have been meaning to read.

After the first stroke, I lost my housing arrangements. Yes, I was in the hospital and the person I was sharing a house with decided that she did not want me to come back under these circumstances. It was shocking, it was frightening, and ultimately, it was for the best. When you find out that someone you held in high regard as a friend is no longer in your corner, it is time to move on before things get ugly. So when I left the hospital I spent the first two nights in a hotel. This was also scary. I was alone with very poor vision and terrible balance issues. My eating choices were limited since swallowing was also an issue. At that point another friend volunteered to take me in and I gratefully accepted.

Before I go any further I must mention my big brother. Readers of my blog know that I have a big brother in the lifestyle that I am obedient to for life. You can't imagine how much my situation stressed him out. We live quite a distance from each other so between the poor medical care I received initially and my housing situation, he was about to hop a plane. Needless to say he was also very gratetul when my friend stepped forward.

The move was temporary, I had to seek out better medical care since my symptoms were getting worse and my vision was almost no longer functional. The house I went to did not have a separate room for me nor did I have my own bed. This was uncomfortable but not impossible. Many issues arose during my stay there that, unfortunately, have now resolved themselves in a negative way. However, since not everyone that comes into your life is there forever you take the lessons you learn and move past it. They are either there for a reason, a season, or forever. I found out that some people come to teach you things you did not know or understand and then they move on.

After I got into an excellent hospital and received top notch care they sent me to a rehabilitation hospital and the progress continued. Since I still needed a place to stay, my sister wanted me to come and stay with her. This was to be mutually beneficial since my sister and brother in law were struggling and I could help out financially. I don't have much in the way of financial resources but I gave what I could. As I write this I am still at my sister's house but moving in two weeks to stay with a friend as I hunt for apartments. Considering that when I first went into the hospital I could not walk on my own, get up on my own and had to use a wheelchair I am proud to say I am pretty independent these days.

One of the brightest moments of the last few months was the fall party that my Yahoo group hosts. I got lots of email assuming the party was to be cancelled. But I assured one and all that, come hell or high water, that party was on! For purely selfish reasons I needed that party. I had to assure myself I was not only among the living, but back in my spanko community.

The party was a wonderful success and I got spanked, boy did I ever get spanked. The first night I was too tired to do much but by Saturday night I was ready to go! I got spanked and spanked others, what a joy. But my friends the best part was the feeling I got when we all gathered in the social room the first time on Friday night. It was like a family reunion, I felt as though I had come home to people that loved and cared about me. Now don't get me wrong, many were itching to spank me but I was itching to be spanked.

And I got to see, hug, and be spanked by my big brother. When I hugged him the first time, I started crying. I had been so afraid I would never see him again. One of my biggest fears had been that I would have another stroke and die without seeing the people I loved so much.

Now as for the blog, I am going to do my best to post regularly. My group's spring party is coming up in May. It is posted on my Our Need and Desire group, fetlife, and spankolife. I invite one and all to join in the fun. I will post more of the details in the next day or two. But for now my wings are tired and this purple angel is just happy to be back at home.